A Confrontation: The Decision To Keep My Children Safe

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A challenging experience that I encountered in my personal life has to do with a decision I had to make about confronting my mother. It was coming up on my husband’s and my 10th anniversary. My step-mother had paid for a wonderful weekend getaway at a bed and breakfast in Kansas City, Kansas. My husband and I were scheduled to be out of town for 4 days total. We have three children together and figuring out what we were going to do to provide care for them during this time was, what we thought, an easy decision. My mother and step-father had agreed to take them for the time we were going to be out of town. This plan would have been perfect, if it had not been for one particular issue that we had to deal with.I was very happy that my mother and step-father had offered to take our three children during this time, until a situation arose. I found out that my mother was spending more time with a cousin of mine at that point. Normally this would not have been an issue, but this cousin was one who was a little older than me and had sexually molested me when I was a young girl. Now, my husband and I have two beautiful daughters. At the time this vacation was to take place, the oldest was 9 and the youngest was 6. We also have a son, who at that time was 2 years old. When my mother began speaking of my cousin, all these horrible memories I had suppressed resurfaced. The only thing I was concerned about then was keeping my kids safe. I knew I had to confront my mother about this issue before time ran out. I also knew how the conversation was going to go, from past experiences when confronting my mother.I spoke with my husband, my father, and my step-mother about the issues I was having. They all agreed and supported me in the fact that I had to tell my mother, and since we are the parents, and what we say goes when it involves our children.I knew, and still know that my mother is a very emotional person and was going to take our decision as a personal attack on her. I knew she was going to think that we did not trust her and my step-father to keep our children safe. I also knew that there was no other way to go about telling her to keep my cousin away from our children, other than to just come right out and say it. This decision terrified me. My parents’ approval and support have always meant so much to me. My mother and I have never gone more than a few days without talking to each other. I knew in my heart and head that I had made the right decision, even though it was a very difficult one to make. I guess, not a very difficult decision to make, but definitely a difficult one to follow through on.The time came and it was time to make the dreaded phone call. I called my mother up, and told her I needed to talk to her about something very important. I began by telling her that I realized they were spending more and more time with my cousin. She began taking on a very defensive tone of voice with me at that point. I began shaking and had tears in...

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