Humans are innately born to interact with others to understand the different views of perspective, and learn the cooperation and engagement through developing interpersonal relationship with others. Interpersonal relationship is an association which is formed in two or more people based on love, support, or even business commitment. Different types of relationships can form between family, friend and in romance. Development of Human interpersonal relationship begins with the attachment that is formed during in infancy. The early attachment formed between the infant and the caregiver effects the child’s expectations of trust and shapes their behaviors in forming other relationships in later life. Therefore, Adult attachment is based on how the person developed his early attachment with primary caregiver. Among different attachment styles which will affect one’s relationships, many researchers have done some studies in adult attachment in individual’s romantic relationship, and the marriage.
Adult attachment plays important roles in marriage. Marriage is not all about love, it requires other materials to cooperate and understand each other. One of the fundamental materials is having someone that has same or similar personality. If a married couple have different attachment styles then they are more likely to end up having dissatisfying and unhappy marriage which may leads to divorce.
The theory of attachment was developed by John Browbly, a British psychologist who demonstrated that infants are born with preprogrammed to bond with their significant person, a primary caregiver. Once the infant develops the emotional attachment with caregiver, infant will consider them as the secure base where they feel protected and secured from environmental threats or fear. This attachment affects the chance of infant’s survival and even have impact on developing other relationships in later life. He came up with the idea of interactions between the caregiver and the infants is much more crucial than providing only elementary needs to the infants. Feeding is not all about forming attachment, how the caregiver implicates the infant’s security and forming trust between them. (Cross, 2007) His work was done with observing the infant’s emotional distress while they were separated from the caregiver with Ainsworth.
Ainsworth, the colleague of Bowbly had a study called strange situation which determined the reaction of the infants in their separation anxiety and the reunion with their caregiver. 3 types of attachments were determined; secure, avoidant and ambivalent attachments. Secure attachment is when the infant experiences distress over separation with the caregiver, but quickly regulates the emotions at reunion stage. The infant is well attached to the caregiver in this attachment. Avoidant is when the infant shows extreme distress in separation but avoids the caregiver at the reunion stage. The infant gets mad and shows the anger toward the...