“Mommy, why don’t I have a daddy?” My precious two year old daughter asks from under a pile of stuffed animals, peering at me with those big, chocolate brown eyes. I can almost feel my daughter’s sadness in the air. She is the sweetest little girl ever, but if she were to know that I don’t even know who her father is, she would be crushed!
“Because, sweetie, I can love you all by myself.” I swiftly answer trying not to look her in the eyes, so I don’t cry. I feel quite proud of myself, coming up with that all on my own, right on the spot. I can taste the bittersweet success in my voice as I speak to my daughter and console her.
“Why can’t you tell me now, mommy?” She quickly retorts. Its like I can taste her confusion as I open my mouth to speak.
“Because, honey, its not that simple. But, I promise, when you are older I will tell you!” I say, not satisfied with my answer.
“Do you pinky promise?” My daughter says, her voice filled with happiness, as she sticks her pinky in the air so I can reach it.
“I pinky promise! But, right now it is time to go to sleep.” I says confidently, matching her enthusiasm, while sticking my pinky out for her to squeeze. After that, though, I tuck her into her princess cover, give her a kiss on her forehead, turn her light off. I quickly exit her room before she tries to ask me any last minute questions about her father. Man, am I glad that this conversation is over, even if it was just for the night.
How would you feel if you didn’t know your real, biological parents? Would you want to at least know what they look like or how they act or anything else about them? All children have the right to know their parents. They should at least know who their parents are, as well as any medical information, even if it cannot be on a personal level. If children are not told the truth about themselves they will grow up with lies and confusion because deep down inside they will know that something is wrong or that they are different in some way. They will always have a nagging feeling, whether they share it or not, about why they are different from everyone else, and it could end badly if they never figure it out; the child could end up being confused for the rest of their life. So, with that being said, donor conceived children should know the identity of their donor parent.
Donor conceived children are children whose parents either cannot conceive children because of medical issues or single mothers who want to have a baby, but do not have a suitable mate. So, to that woman, a quick and easy fix is to find a sperm donor, since there are no strings attached for when she does find that special somebody. But seldom do the parents dwell on what the child is going to think about that, the reason why they cannot meet their other biological parent.
Sperm and egg cell donation happens everywhere, especially in the United States and Canada. The donation can take place over the internet, in person, and in fertility...