There is a contradiction in the mind of teenagers which has been difficult to transcend. The issue of making right decision on the activities they are to embark on and whose counsel to follow has been of high importance to teenagers. Teenagers in the present age find themselves in a tight situation with decision making in that their school psychologists made them realise that being happy is based on the ability to make friends and the development of skills. Meanwhile, teachers and parents advised that, happiness lies on competing and outperforming others.
However to teenagers happiness means fame, position, joy, contentment and having peace of mind. Just as Paul Brenner asserted in his book “If life is a game why am I not having fun” He quoted that “Happiness is success” (1). Looking at it from the teenagers’ perspective of happiness, play to them means happiness and happiness means success. Accordingly there is vast distinction between one accomplishing his goal to be happy, and to accomplish happily.
In the essay “Children Needs to play not compete” Jessica Statsky talked on some of health, physical and psychological reasons children should not be allowed to indulge in competitive games or sports. She appealed to the parents and coaches or game masters on the implications and dangers of organised sports and She argued that competitive sports may harm teenagers both physically and mentally. Statsky in the book stated that sports generally are organised activity irrespective of how it’s being organised either locally or nationally or internationally. She also persuaded that both contact and non contact sports played by kindergarten have side effects on the children either as a competitor or as spectator; hence they should not be allowed to partake in competitive sports.
She further stated that the Adult standard of sports that is imposed on teenagers by overzealous coaches and parents makes sports unproductive and unprofitable to the children hence desisting from such action of infliction. 1Brenner, P. If life is a game, how come I'm not having fun? A guide to life's challenges. Albany: SUNY Press, 2001. (107)
In Statsky’s essay she made a clear opinion of her stands on the consequences involved in such games including the physical harm which such games attract to growing bodies and the psychological harm of competing. She also emphasized on the method of selection and the determination of parents and coaches who impose that winning is a do or die affair.
In light of Jessica Statsky’s book ‘Children need to play, not compete’, she argued that, with the vivid increase of sporting competition lately in the United States, children have been exposed to the adults hard and rigorous training by devoted parents and coaches at their tender age making a game that is supposed to be fun and joy look hectic and strenuous to them due to the standard of training they are made to go through and also the belief that they must always win...