Chrysanthemums Essay

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Yuen Chi Chiu 13632299Reflective PaperAfter studying IPC theories, I found out that those theories are related to my daily life closely. It is because the theories can be applied to the case of interpersonal communication. In this essay, I would like to discuss the communication among me and my mother. According to my observation, my relationship with my mother is very bad. I've been think she is very repetitive. Even if what she said, I don't care. This is why I have a bad relationship with her. She thought I didn't respect her. She think I'm perfunctory her too. For example, She often urged me to take a shower. Even she urged me ten times at a night.Now I have the dyadic consciousness which means a person seek the relationship become more important. (HKBU notes, 2014.) In order to improve the relationship between me and my mother, I made a series of measures to mend the relationship between my mother and me.Cross transaction occur when I talk with my mother. It is because I talk with my mother with adult self, but my mother talks to me with parent self. Communication will cease when the transactions crossed. For example, one day I got up late. I said :" sorry, I wake up late." My mother said: "How many times I told you to go to bed early in order to able to wake up on time." Then I said: "Can I lend 50 dollars to have lunch?" She said: "No way! Why are you always late? Since you are late, I do not borrow you money!" In this case, my mother talked to me judgmentally and subjectively. However, I was using adult self to talk to her. Therefore, the cross transaction happen.For achieve the complementary, I should adjust to ensure the smooth communication. I will use the child self to talk to my mother. Now, I talking to my mother become more care seeking. So, our both need are satisfied.Moreover, I would like to discuss the noise which occurred in the communication among my mother and me. I usually brawl with my mother since the whatsapp message content is not suitable for the events. I discuss one example. When we contact with whatsapp, we always type message but not use voice message. Once before, I told her I needed my mother to bring the USB to me because I needed to have a presentation on that day. Then, she typed "you are so stupid." to me and angered me since I thought she was impolite. Then, she explained she did not willing to make fun of me. She just was kidding actually. In this case, semantic noise was occurred and the different meaning was assigned in the same message. I incorrectly perceive the tone of her message since the message merely contained words.For avoiding the distortion of noise which affecting the transmission of messages, I advise that we...

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