Communication Between Men and Women
Communication is a crucial part of our daily lives which can be interpreted in various ways. Although, many couples think they have no problems communicating with each other; however, the issue among genders still exists. Learning to talk and listen can improve relationships in many ways. Therefore, Deborah Tannen, John Gray, Susan Page, and John Gottman focused on improving communication skills between genders.
According to Deborah Tannen, a linguistic professor of Georgetown University, men and women talk differently and sometimes it might be very complex as she stated that many coupes 'grew in diverse cultures.' Men consider communication as a primary language of 'report.' They feel more comfortable engaging in a conversation during public speaking which is more focused on performance. Attention from others usually comes from being on top of any conversation they might have.
On the other hand, for women the language of communication is primary a language of 'rapport' (Tannen 10). Women do better job initiating private conversations between each other in the less crowded environments. Females are more focused on negotiating relationships and comparing them to others. Conversations between the two genders are engaged in different times and the subject of conversation is usually dissimilar.
Author John Grey an inspirational speaker and writer on relationships between men and women, succeed with a book titled ?Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?. According to Grey, women and men speak different languages and hold opposing views. Words in their language might have a different meaning. The way men react to woman?s needs and questions could be misleading for women and vice versa. Gray is able to construct the dictionary that he calls: ?The Venusian/Martian Phrase Dictionary?, where men are Martians and women are Venusians. However, learning phrases that the two genders use on every day basis could improve understanding; the lower the risk of engaging in arguments, could gain an experience of resolving them in proper and peaceful way. Many of people in the world found Grey?s descriptions match their own experiences. According to the Grey, women have to learn about men before developing joyful successful relationship (Gray 21).
When man are upset or stressed they automatically stop talking and go to their ?cave? to work things out (Gray 21). At this moment a woman must understand that her spouse wants to figure out his problems on his own, with out her help.
According to Gray, men also need to be aware that women like to share and talk things through in a non-solution-oriented way (35). Man need to also understand that when their spouse is troubled, depressed or upset, he needs to make her feel loved even when she can not love herself (Gray 35).
Another author who specializes in concept of achieving ability to communicate better in the relationships is Susan Page. She...