Are human beings morally obliged to be mutually honest in a true friendship? Can a real friendship continue without honesty? For instance, let’s say friend A is good friends with both friends B and C, whom happen to be married with each other. Friend A finds out that husband B is having extra-marital sex without the consent of wife C. Should Friend A be honest to husband B’s wife C? I believe that friend A does have an obligation to tell wife C about husband B’s affair.
In order for us to argue in support of honesty, we must bring in a lexical definition of friendship. A general definition is “the state of being friends” in which “mutual trust and support” between one another is ...view middle of the document...
On the other hand, he may not lose a friend, but would feel like they were the cause of the husband and wife separating. In order to avoid this anguish and guilt, friend A decides to not say anything.
There are possible solutions to this dilemma. Friend A could either: 1) choose to tell the truth and bear the consequences that are outside their control or 2) not say anything, but dissolve the friendships with both husband B and wife C because of a lack of mutual dishonesty. I believe most people would discard choice number 2. I also believe that many people would find it very difficult to choose option number 1. Nevertheless, we must keep in mind that sometimes certain choices have to be made, not for the sake of our own selves, but for the sake of something greater than it, in this case, the friendship.
How could we go on about choosing option 1? Option 1 is a difficult scenario. However, we must keep in mind that friend A, up to this point, has done absolutely nothing wrong. The wrongness would be based on his choice of dishonesty towards the husband B and wife C. One may ask, why is friend A being dishonest to both friends B, and C?
Friend A’s dishonesty towards wife C is based on not telling the truth and failing to be mutually honest and supportive. A mutually honest friend would say the truth, regardless of the consequences, while a mutually supportive friend would give comfort to the individual friend that is suffering.
On the other hand, friend A’s trust fails with husband B because...