Curfews, and Other Limits
Many Parents set up rules, and other boundaries in which their teens
must follow. These rules are usually placed over their teens to control,
protect, and teach their teen. Even though most parents mean well, and some
rules are necessary it's easy to overwhelm teens with regulations.
First of all teens are not going to follow all of the rules, and
secondly there are some things that certain teens will not do with, or without
a specific rule on that subject. For example, there are many teens who would
never use drugs, but by placing a rule on this, the teen might not feel trust
worthy, and might be more likely to try drugs. This is not always the case
though, some teens need every rule stated, or they might test your patients.
Parents should remember that they know heir teenager best, and they need to set
rules according to their own teen.
Drugs and other illegal things are often a problem with certain teens,
but some teens will never try drugs. Teenagers will turn to drugs for answers
to problems. To avoid having problems with your teen, spend time with them and
talk to them. In dealing with a teen who has taken illegal drugs, you as a
parent need to try to understand why you teen has committed the crime. Only
when you understand the child, then you can give the appropriate punishment.
Another important factor in discipline is to make sure that the teen
understands why what they have done is wrong, and show them scripture to explain
it. If a child does not know why what they have done is bad, they will likely
do it again.
A parent needs to make sure that their rules do not contradict each
other. It is easy to restrict one bad influence, and not another. Many
parents feel that they need to whom their teen hangs out with because of their
friends' language, and general behavior. This is often the wise thing to do,
but if you restrict this, but still allow your teen to curse or watch improper
movies, and TV the restriction of certain friends will just confuse your teen.