Death and Grieving
Imagine that the person you love most in the world dies. How would you cope with the loss? Death and grieving is an agonizing and inevitable part of life. No one is immune from death’s insidious and frigid grip. Individuals vary in their emotional reactions to loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve (Huffman, 2012, p.183), it is a melancholy ordeal, but a necessary one (Johnson, 2007). In the following: the five stages of grief, the symptoms of grief, coping with grief, and unusual customs of mourning with particular emphasis on mourning at its most extravagant, during the Victorian era, will all be discussed in this essay (Smith, 2014).
In 1969 Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a psychiatrist, published the Pioneering book On Death and Dying. The work acquainted the world with the grieving process, called the five stages of grief. Kübler-Ross gathered her research from studying individuals with terminal cancer (Johnson, 2007). The first stage of the grieving process is denial. In this stage the person refuses to believe that their loved one is deceased, a common thought during this period is, “This can’t be happening to me” (Johnson, 2007).The second stage of the grieving process is anger. In this level the person becomes frustrated with their circumstances, a customary complaint is “Why is this happening to me?” (Johnson, 2007). The third stage of the grieving process is bargaining. At this point the individual hopes that they can prevent their grief, this typically involves bartering with a higher power, and an ordinary observance during this time is “I will do anything to have them back” (Johnson, 2007). The fourth and most identifiable stage of grief is depression. This phase is habitually the lengthiest as the person begins to comprehend the inevitability of death. The individual is enveloped in an abysmal state of melancholia, lamentation commence at this stage of time, a natural remark at this point is “why should I go on, if they are not here with me” (Johnson, 2007). The fifth and final stage of the grieving process is acceptance. At this concluding frame of mind, the individual comes to terms with the death, and starts to move on, a normal comment in this stage is “I am at peace with the death” (Johnson, 2007). It is vital to remember that the one does not have to go through every stage in order, or to go through every stage at all. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s model was never expected the five stages of grieving to be a stiff frame of reference, in her own words she say “They were never meant to help tuck messy emotions into neat packages. They are responses to loss that many people have, but there is not a typical response to loss, as there is no typical loss. Our grieving is as individual as our lives” (Smith, 2014).
There is never one, or a correct way to grieve, however, countless people go through similar symptoms of mourning. Mourning has two types of symptoms: psychological and physical. The following...