The word bully can be traced back to as far as the 1530’s. In the most basic sense, it involves a victim and an intimidator. However, throughout the years, the topic of bullying has quickly spread and broadened, making its definition harder to pin down so simply. Today, we have several means, technological and otherwise, to inflict harm on others. More than ever before.
We’re all familiar with the many types of bullying. Including cyber, physical, emotional, as well as many more. Which can occur anywhere from work to school to your local park and even behind your laptop screen.
For some, school has transformed from a safe environment to grow and learn to a dreaded burden.
To make things slightly easier to explain, lets say there are mainly three types of school-bound bullies:
• The Physical Bully: exactly what it sounds like; physical. Punching, kicking, shoving or any other type of physical pain inflicted on someone.
• The Personal\Social bully: probably the most common. These bullies act by singling out their peer in a social group. By constantly and publicly pointing out victims flaws, spreading rumours, etc.
• The Verbal Bully: name-calling, using racial slurs, comments about appearance or financial state, or their victims life at home. As well as using verbal threats.
While these types may not be the stereotypes that come to mind when we say the word bully, all of the above have an extreme affect, although not always immediate, on both the victim and the bully.
It has been found that most probably no child will go through its whole life untouched by the affect, whether direct or indirect, of bullying.
Indirectly affected are the bystanders, who aren’t really facing as high of a risk of the long-term affects that plague the bullies\victims, still face a moral predicament when it comes to witnessing the act.
Not knowing whether to intervene or look the other way, bystanders usually choose the latter.
But can we really blame them?
By alerting an adult, they feel compromised and at risk themselves. A part of growing up we’ve somewhat been taught to look out for number one; ourselves. So can we really scold a child that has witnessed something cruel, and by minding their own business, is only doing what many of us do regularly?
Of course, that doesn’t justify it in the least.
On top of all that, mentioning the long term affects of all parties involved is vital.
(They are most likely to face)
• Depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy. These issues may persist into adulthood.
• Decreased academic achievement—GPA and standardized test scores—and school participation. They are more likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school.
• A very small number of bullied children might retaliate through extremely violent measures. In 12 of 15 school shooting cases in the 1990s, the shooters had a history of being...