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Different Daughters Essay

1628 words - 7 pages

This book consists of 32 different stories. All of the stories are based on reactions to finding out that a daughter or sister is a lesbian, bisexual, or transsexual. The reactions vary from completely understanding to freaking out at first. Even though the initial reactions varied greatly, they all ended on a pretty happy and understanding terms. Some of the parents even thank their daughters for opening their eyes to a completely new world with a completely new set of people. I think the major theme in this book is eventual understanding. One way or another people who found out that a loved one was homosexual, learned to deal with and accept that family member. Some of them even loved and accepted the partner and referred to them as their daughter-in-law. I believe this is a great book and a valuable teaching tool. Everyone should be required to read this book, and hopefully they will walk away with an open mind and on a quest for more knowledge on the subject. Maybe they will even become involved with movements and activist groups.This book was not written by just one woman, it is a collection of stories by mothers who have lesbian, bisexual, or transsexual daughters. There is even a story by the mother of the editor who put the book together. Throughout the entire book, I did not feel that there was any negativity towards men, children or other women. All of the mothers except one was heterosexual. The one that was not was married twice and never believed her daughter when she said that she too was a lesbian. However, by getting involved with support groups, parades and other lesbians the mother realized that she could ?never go back to the heterosexual world?. She now lives in a lesbian community and she is at peace there. Even though she has never had a lesbian relationship, she is a ?self-proclaimed lesbian?. All of the women who wrote in loved their daughters and though it may have been hard to accept at first, they are happy with their honesty of ?coming out?. I think every woman in this book views men, women and children as equal beings. There is no ?men bashing? that takes place, and everyone had to learn to live with their daughter?s sexual orientation.All of the women in the book (including the editor) seem to define family as a group of loving people that care for and about one another. Some of the writers had a hard time dealing with this at first (believing that only blood and marriage bonds were family), but they learned otherwise. In one story written by a sister of a lesbian who was diagnosed with cancer could not understand why she wanted to leave her ?family? on the east coast to go back to California when she was battling this horrible disease. The sister flew to California and soon realized that this group of women was also her family. They went grocery shopping for her and took her back and forth to her chemo treatments. Someone was always checking /visiting on her to make sure, she had everything that she needed. They...

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