The “Love of My Life” is a brief story about a college couple’s love for each other. Unfortunately, they had unprotected sex. Instead of considering another way out, the girl insisted that her boyfriend throw the infant in a dumpster and leave it to die. Instead of leaving the infant to die, she should have put the baby up for adoption for another family. If she would have done that, a family who either could not have children, or just liked the idea of adoption, could have adopted the child. There are various reasons why people decide to adopt. Some say adoption is the best thing for certain children or parents and many successful stories prove it to be true. However there are also negative outcomes of adoption. Negative or positive outcomes can affect the adoptive parents, the adoptees, and even the birth parents. An unknown author once said that adoption isn’t a mother holding a baby in her stomach, but in her heart. The way that the adoptive child is raised is completely up to their new parents. Although there are many different types of families in today's society, adoption is one of the unique ways to raise a family. Some of the main forms of adoption include opened adoption, closed adoption, international adoption, domestic adoption, and interstate adoption.
Believe it or not, the idea of adopting is considered ancient. One of the most well-known adoptions comes from the Bible in which Pharaoh’s daughter took baby Moses from a basket floating down the Nile. She raised him as her own, and ever since adoption has been made known to society.
There are several types of modern adoption. According to Annette Baran and Reuben Pannor, “in contrast to closed adoption, open adoption includes the exchange of identifying information and the making of agreements regarding future contact and communication.” Open adoption gives birthparents the opportunity to meet the adoptive parents. The adoptees have a lesser chance of feeling rejected by their birth parents. By giving adoptees the chances to know their birth parents, they can better understand their situation. In addition, open adoption has a higher chance of providing their heritage, genetics, and medical history. Chelsea, a friend of mine who has been openly adopted, stated:
I had an open adoption, but just because you have one doesn't mean your biological parents choose to see you. I have never seen my biological mom, but if I had to pick which adoption I preferred, it would have to be closed, because then you know that your parents are not able to see you, not that they don't want to see you. And sometimes the birth parents are crazy so it’s better for the kids.
While there are pros to having a closed adoption for the adoptee, a closed adoption can cause emotional damage to the birth parents. Birth parents may feel as if they are a failure and can suffer depression. Parents may have feelings of guilt causing them to feel confused and stressed on whether they should tell their future...