When two people marry, they are seemingly deciding that they will be together until death separates them. When those two married people then decide to start a family together, that further solidifies the notion that they will be together as a whole family unit. Unfortunately, some things do not always work out as hoped and planned for them to, and marriages fall apart. Statistics show that 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is an even more unfortunate situation when there are children involved. The psychological effects from the dissolution of a marriage are harder on children because they usually feel it is their fault that mommy and daddy are not together anymore. However, there are some instances where divorce is less stressful on the children, even the whole family unit, than the actual marriage itself. Lets explore both scenarios.
Divorce can cause stress and anxiety on a child of any age. Depending on the age, children of divorce suffer psychological effects that are far reaching, even into adulthood and their own marriages. Young children in preschool age, do not really understand why their parents are divorced, and they have the need to get their parents back together. They may also tend to regress back to an earlier stage in their life by acting babylike in order to command more attention from both parents. Slightly older children, from about ages 6-8 years old, feel the same basic emotions, but they also tend to go through a grieving period, as well. They do not tend to revert back to earlier childhood stages, however they are more apt to feel lost in the ‘shuffle’ and start to wonder who will care for them, and wonder who really loves them because mom and dad stopped loving each other. Children ages 9 and older are more able to comprehend some of the reasons why their parents have divorced, and are more apt to side with one parent over the other. Children also tend to express their opinions about the divorce, and show anger, frustration, and resentment towards the parents for causing a disruption in the household. They also are more apt to snub family rules, tradition, and disciplines that were taught to them and attempt to take care of themselves since their parents have not kept certain loyalties to the whole family unit.
According to research, children and teenagers of divorced parents are more likely to drop out of schools and may be more apt to commit crimes. Research held by the law firm Mishcon de Reya in 2009 revealed that people who had experienced parents’ divorce in the preceding 20 years showed increased aggression (42%), were forced to comfort upset parent (49%), or had to lie to one of them (24%). 1 of 10 turned to crime, and about 8% considered committing suicide. Besides, only 60% of children by the age of 20 had graduated from high school, compared to 78% of children in two-parent households (The Week).
Research held in 2005 showed that children of divorced parents are more likely to divorce...