Erick Erikson, a man with a lot of ideas on life and adolescent behavior. In class we studied a few stories that really connected with the idea of kids and how they behave at certain points in their life. In Erickson’s story about the nature of adolescence, he discusses four different stages of where a kid is mentally. I can defiantly relate to each and every one of these stages, because I was once and still am a kid. These four stages are intimacy, a diffusion of time perspective, a diffusion of industry, and negative identity.
To begin, the first of the four stages is intimacy. According to Erikson intimacy is when a adolescent fears commitment or involvement in close relationship, because of possible lost in one’s self. This can be caused because of things happening to them in the past making them fear future relationships. This doesn't have to be a dating relationship, but can also be a family relationship. A dad or mom could have hurt them. Someone ...view middle of the document...
Personally it's hard for me to relate to this stage. I've always wanted to look towards the future and see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Also, Erikson’s third stage of adolescence is when a person goes through diffusion of industry. This is more of the common stage because it can affect all ages and sizes. It is when a young person finds it hard to harness there resources and attitudes in a realistic manner. This can be caused from a very early age. One may not grow up and doesn't grow out of a certain time period in their life. Or when someone experiences something in a virtual reality, like a video game and doesn't know how to relate what's real and what's not. Another possibility is one doesn't believe the people or sources around him or her causing doubt in everything. I've had this happen to me before as well so I can relate. I got so into a virtual life, I didn’t want to do anything else or believe anything except for what came on a game. This stage can and most likely will happen to every young person.
Fourth and finally, the last stage is called negative identity. This when a young person selects a identity to have, which is exactly opposite than what a parent wishes them to have. A parent might want their kid to have good grades and be active in school. But the child would rebel and do the exact opposite. This is the craziest and scariest stages of young life. It can be the most damaging and end up affecting a kid for life and may never get out of this stage. When I was about thirteen, I went through this stage. I was in eighth grade; my parents didn't want me to play football. But I did anyways. I defied them and didn't do what they wanted. That is just one example from my life how I can relate to this stage.
As you can see, the four major stages in an adolescent’s life can be extremely strange and traumatic. These four stages are named intimacy, a diffusion of time and perspective, a diffusion of industry, and negative identity. They basically cover all parts of what a young person would go through. Erikson is almost spot on because I am the average teenager and I have almost experienced all of these. These four things can be a very hard thing to go through, but is almost necessary.