Father – Mr. Ho
Mother – Mrs. Ho
The eldest son – Man
Little son – Siu-ming
The family of origin’s influence
Satir mentioned that parental style of communication, family rules and family position are greatly influenced by their family of origin. They bring together what they learned in their own family implicitly and explicitly and formulated the context of their family now. (Rasheed, 2010) In this case, Mrs. and Mrs. Ho’s parental style and attitudes also are influenced by their family of origin.
For Mr. Ho’s family of origin, he is the firstborn son and his father has a higher expectation towards him as his father is from low-income family. His father needs him having a good academic achievement in order to carry a future, and he must follow his father order as to avoid punishment. As a result, he has high demands on his children and expects they must enter to the university.
In addition, his family is hierarchical causing inequality and power imbalance, and the family members must conform to those in authority. (Rasheed, 2010) In his family, all family members follow his father to maintain family harmony. However, this is just one of the better ways of letting everyone ought to confront (Rasheed, 2010) rather than facilitate the development of healthy family. Consequently, it influenced his formulation of role in his family – he requires family member must follow him.
For Mrs. Ho’s family of origin, she is an only child in her family. Her father provides her a lot of freedom focusing her happiness and comfort, additionally, her family is relatively equal as her parents give her freedom on any decision making. She lives without pressure in her childhood. Therefore, she seldom affects his son’s decision and doted on her sons.
Family as a system
According to V. Satir, family is a system and need for balance, as she believed family in whole is greater than the sum of its parts and the survival needs of the system can over the need of individual family members. Once the inappropriate roles, Restrictive rules and unrealistic expectations occurred in the family, the family becomes imbalanced and the family members’ function will not meet. (Loeschen, 1998) Mr. Ho’s current family also suffers from these factors.
Dysfunctional Family Systems
1. Inappropriate roles in HO’s family
Every families exists a family triangle. If family members feel left out and lack confidence with each other, the family triangle turned to be dysfunctional. (Loeschen, 1998) In Ho’s family, Mr. Ho wants to satisfy his need and sense of honor through his little son, Siu-ming, who is an “ersatz mate” in the triangle with her...