During the summer vacation, after I graduated high school, I experienced ethical dilemma. I had hard time to make an ethical-decision and still, I feel guilty about my choice. I am going to discuss my ethical dilemma which involved weighing my needs to attend SUNY Old Westbury against my dad's needs for me to transfer college in my home country, South Korea, and stay with my mom when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. I am going to discuss whether my decision was ethical from the perspectives of Mill, Kant, and Gilligan. I also will discuss how the readings changed my perspectives about how I want to approach ethical decision-making.
In the First Year Experience: Ethics Of Engagement Class, I learned two kinds of ethical dilemma criteria. The first criteria is weighing my needs against the needs of someone else (Lecture Nov., 2013). The other criteria is weighing the needs of two group (Lecture Nov., 2013). According to the lecture, the first criteria applies to my ethical dilemma. Because my ethical dilemma has a conflict between my needs and my dad's needs.
About a year ago, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Fortunately, it was not too late to got surgery. However, last summer vacation, my brother and I had to stay in America because of my brother's I-20 problem - the previous school that we attended in Connecticut made a mistake during the transfer process. This summer vacation was the first time that we met our mom and family after we heard about the bad news. It occurred the problem. She could not stand it any longer after she met us. Therefore, my father asked me and my brother to come back to Korea and stay with my mom - but she wanted us to stay in America. Both my brother and I came back to America but before the semester starts, my brother went back to Korea. But, still, my father asked me to transfer college in Korea. He said, "Family is more important than education. You are young. It means you have more chances and time that you want to do. But your mom and I are not (Dad: August, 2013)."
My decision for my ethical dilemma was stay in America. I decided to finish my first year at SUNY Old Westbury and visit my family every winter/summer vacation. My father said that I am young so I have more chances and time than my parents (Dad: August, 2013)." It helped me to make my final decision. Yes, I am young so I may have more chances. However, I do not want to let my chances go away from me. I do not want to waste my time without doing nothing. I am sure that if I go back to Korea now, then I am going to forget my English in couple of months. I am still not fully adapt to my new education system, which is America education system, but I like it and I want to learn and develop my knowledge through it. I do not think I can learn something from "rote drill", which is the way that teachers and professors teach their students in Korea.
I do not want to feel guilty about my decision but I want to...