Family Constellation Assignment
Adler School of Professional Psychology
Assignment for 402- Introduction to Adlerian Psychology
Family Constellation Assignment
Adlerian concepts show that childhood actions and family dynamics we faced during our early years of life effect our present situations. Therefore, in order to get a better idea of myself today I would like to share and reflect upon my life story. To paint a picture of myself let me begin with my immigration to Canada, as I can’t recall much about my life before moving here.
My parents were in there late 20's when we moved to Canada and I was 4 years old when I arrived. My parents worked hard to settle down and ...view middle of the document...
My mom always made time for me as she listened to me talk about my day and shared her wisdom. Another thing about my mom, was that she seemed to be very protecting of me, such as when I was allowed to play outside I had a rule to stay within a boundary regardless of where my friends went so that she could see from the kitchen window, or else she would bundle me in extra layers of clothes even when it was warm outside.
My dad on the other hand didn’t wrap me in extra layers, but he would carefully make my lunch just the way I liked it, no crust. The first thing that comes to mind as I recall my childhood is that my dad was always "easy to hug"; he had a friendly and patient personality. He was my alliance as I would always go-to him when mom was angry, or if I had an emergency because I knew mom’s reaction would be overdramatic. He had two jobs and spent most of his time at work, but my mom and I would stay up late in order to welcome him home. One thing he states is “everything happens for the best”, something is meant to happen in our future as a result of any experience regardless if it was good or bad at the time.
I remember spending many experiences with my cousin sister. She was my best friend during my childhood. I played with my cousin every day at school, daycare and home. Between both of us, I would say that I was the first born even though I am a year younger because most of the time I was more experienced with the Canadian culture and recall guiding her about life in Canada, such as teaching English and helping her make friends at school and in the neighborhood.
We both were shy and grew up with the same cultural values; however there were always many differences amongst us. She did well in art and painting, where as I cared about science and math. She succeeded in areas that I was weaker, for example we both joined swim lessons, I quit halfway through but she reached the highest lifeguarding position. She had an assertive personality and would be the one to stand up for both of us if needed. We would usually get into trouble or fight when we were together. As I recall she was very pushy when we competed, for example, if we were racing she usually pushed me a side to get a head start. Both of our birthday's are on the same day as well, so we would usually wear the same outfit, have a same group party, and generally we both were put in the same activities. People would have confused us as twins if they didn’t know us well.
One of the reasons that we were close friends was as result of the lovingness between my mom and her sister: my aunt. I can’t really imagine my aunt creating a big change in my life, she was always nice and caring, but she too looked tired as she managed to work hard just as everyone else in my family. I would describe her as having an independent personality, and I imagine being a single parent added additional stress along with settling down in a new country. During my childhood and at present, I consider her...