Fear of Parenting
With the raise of internet and easily obtainable information, many soon to be parents are able to research all of their parenting questions. People in modern times fear becoming parents due to their lack in childcare experiences. Since the 1960’s, the United States birthrate has been gradually decreasing. The lower birthrate leads to fewer adults having childcare experiences as they did not growing up caring for little brothers or sisters. Many people fear that their personality or lifestyle choices would negatively affect the upbringing of a child. The fear of parenting is so strong that people would believe anybody who claims to be an expert in raising children. Susan Cain, who is known for her book Quiet, answered questions on the difficulties of parenting with conflicting personalities. Those personalities that Cain addressed were defined as introverts and extroverts by Carl Jung. A parent shouldn’t worry about their personality or lifestyle affecting a child’s development as a child develops from their environment. The child develops from adapting to their environment and their individual experiences with situations.
What exactly are introverts and extroverts? Carl Jung, a renowned Swiss psychiatrist, studied many personalities and was able distinguished two major characteristics. One of the characteristics was extroverts. Extroverts tended to be more social and very outward with their emotions. This characteristic type depends on outside stimulation such as other humans or unfamiliar situations. Extroverts could also be described as people more in touch with their environment. The opposite of that is an introvert. Introverts are more withdrawn with their emotions and prefer to be secluded from stimulating environments. Introverts tended to be less social and think more about their actions. People who fall under the introverted type reflect upon their actions before proceeding while extroverts act first with little to no thought. “The words extroverted means outward turning and introversion means inward turning” (Reed). While Carl created two distinguishable characteristic types, no single person is 100% introverted or extroverted. Rather than being one or the other, introversion and extroversion is seen as a spectrum for personalities.
When it comes to parenting, there have been several styles of parenting that have been identified. The styles of parenting are autocratic, authoritarian, democratic, permissive, laissez-faire, and ignoring. Autocratic means to have one absolute ruler. In terms of parenting, the parent asserts their dominance and refuses the child to express themselves. In an authoritarian parenting style, the child may have a say in issues but the final decision is solely on the parents regardless of the child’s say. A democratic parent lets their child have a say in issues and the parent compromises to meet both the parents and child’s need. A permissive parenting style lets the child play a more active...