Gay Parenting Should Not Be Encouraged
Statistics from the United States (ACLU Fact sheet, 1999) estimate the there are between 6 and 14 million children being raised in same sex parent families. Whilst some significant advances have been made by the pro gay parenting movement, current legislation is for the most part geared against same sex marriage and adoption, this status quo should be maintained.
Gay parents rights group argue that being raised by two parents of the same sex provides a balanced and healthy approach to parenting. This is untrue, being raised by gay parents means that the family unit has an unbalanced ratio of male and female role models in the home environment, you could reasonably expect that this imbalance would spread into the parents circle of friends and the people that the family socialise with on a regular basis. Children look for both a mother and a father and benefit from having both in the home. Ellis (2001) stated, "Gender plays a large role...we may not think these differences are politically correct but, by God, they're developmentally correct.
One argument that gay parents have is that children don't need two sex couple role models. Having two parents of the same sex deprives the children of the chance to see how males and females interact in a family situation. Even though gay parents argue the children are exposed to their fair share of traditional male and female relationships, these may be somewhat censored as the visiting child is not part of that family and most families tend to keep certain things within the family. Parents are very strong role models and children are known to mimic what they see.
"Men and women parent differently, each contribute different and positive qualities to a child's upbringing" Ellis, M (2001). Children relate to their mothers and fathers in different ways and confront each of them in different ways; many female children are more likely to stand up to their mother as opposed to their father and vice versa for boys. Each gender of parent brings different skills and qualities to the upbringing of a child.
Furthermore gay parents argue that their children are more than able to function in a healthy manner in social situations and the wider community. Many children of gay parents have reported (Cameron and Perrin, 2002) that they lie to their friends to hide the truth about their families, this means that these children cannot fully participate in a social situation in an honest way. Often this leads to the child feeling guilty about the lies they have told to their friends. Gay families are not welcome in most mainstream religions and are forced to worship in gay congregations. A very clear majority of citizens from a variety of ethnicities, races, religions and classes agree that while there should be legislation opposing discrimination against gays, legislation should not be passed allowing same sex marriages or adoptions (Schiffren, L, pg4.13)....