After reading through my gender log, during the past few weeks, I observed that many people are "trained" to determine their gender by their biological sex. Some of the people that I have observed and written about would probably never have doubted their sexual orientation. Others have definitely examined their sexuality. Whether this sexuality is male or female is entirely up to them. This is their true sexual identity. Still others that I noticed have actually convinced themselves, whether it is true or false that their biological gender is not, their true gender.
The people who seemed that they were completely sure that their gender was solely based on their biological sex, were "easy to identify" for me. These are the people we have been familiar with all of our lives. These people self-categorize themselves. By acting and dressing according to their gender assignment, these people gave me the impression that they ultimately know if they are male or female. I think that they truly believe, without ever questioning their sexuality that they were born either male or female. They act out their assigned gender roles. They either see their sexuality as, black or white, with no gray areas.
In my journal, I wrote about how I observed a man and a woman at a restaurant. The man automatically paid the bill. This is androcentric behavior. It is assumed in our society that the man should pay, although it is becoming more common for women to pick up the tab, or even them both. This is an example of people who believe that their biological gender is their true gender.
The second type of person, the person who may have at one time or another wondered whether or not they were "gay", is also pretty "easy to identify", if you are able to observe and truly learn about their habits. As an example I'll use a "male" teenager who I went to high school with. I'll call him "Joe". "Joe" was a very good looking male, biologically speaking. When "Joe" was a small child, I notice growing up with him that he had more female friends and that the boys did not like him very much. Many of the boys would often call him "homo", or say "go play with your girlfriends". He was very damaged by all of this. He would usually sit with the girls at lunch, but never the boys. He was often picked on in class with taunts and under the breath innuendoes. He did very well in all subjects in school but did best in art class and theater. His general body language was feminine, the way his hands moved and the way in which he would walk, talk, and even carry his books. I notice that he never tried to change his behavior to please others, which seemed to be gender assigned "feminine behavior". He would also state "I am not gay". His mother actually was going to sue the school to put the responsibility on the school to prevent the students from harassing her son. "Joe" never conformed, to his biological sexual identity being male. He was who he was and everyone...