Divorce it may be an Option!
New research into the effects of divorce is slowly bringing around a more common belief that with the appropriate actions the effects divorce has on children can be minimized. Constance Matthiessen writes the article "Harry Potter and Divorce Among the Muggles" which helps to give a more personal view point into some of the thought processes and ways a parent may struggle with the idea of a divorce. The desire to shield children from the consequences of divorce is a natural thing for parents to worry and struggle with. Children are often one of the motivating forces in a marriage to stay and work out irreconcilable differences. Recent research is bringing to light findings that children from homes where there is high level of conflict may suffer more long term effects that children from divorced families. Most importantly though a parent or parents have the chance to minimize the effects of the divorce by how you teach your child to deal with problems and how they view the divorce during and shortly after it the divorces or separation occurs.
In the article "Harry Potter and the Divorce among the Muggles" by Constance Matthiessen divorce and the struggles faced not only by the children in the family but by the mother of the children over her decision to divorce from her husband is discussed. "For the rest of my life, I will search for the roots of their disappointments and failures in the decision I am action out now." (Harry potter article pg 189) This statement is similar to what many parents facing or going through divorce think about and could possibly continue to think about long after the divorce has taken place.
Marriage is an institution that two people typically enter into with the agreement or hope of having a better life together in partnership. However, reality dictates that this is not always what happens. Increasingly it seems that people find themselves unable to stay in marriages for life and as a result we see more and more children who come from divorced or separated homes. A question that seems to be common for people considering or going through divorce is how will this affect my children? According to HEINICKE, GUTHRIE, and GUTHRIE a bad marriage can be more damaging to the parent child relationship and responsiveness of a parent to their child’s needs than a divorce. “It was found that for those couples whose marital adaptation was unsatisfactory from late pregnancy through the first 2 years both the immediate and sustained impact of divorce...