Heart Felt Wedding Speech from the Father of the Bride
Thank you Ralph for that introduction – I must say that you are looking a great deal better tonight than when I last saw you after Polly’s 21st in the morning at our home. That was not a pretty sight.
Ladies and Gentlemen I am delighted to welcome you here tonight to celebrate the Marriage of Polly and Justin. I know that many of you have travelled many thousands of Kilometres to be here with us, and I welcome you and thank you for being here. I know Polly and Justin greatly appreciate your presence and your sacrifice.
As I look around the room I look and realize what dear friends we have, and I hope you have a really wonderful evening. Although this Marriage has brought us together tonight, I am reminded of what Billy Connelly said of Marriage:
“Marriage is a wonderful invention, but then again so is a bicycle repair kit.”
LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS
Because this is my speech, I can say whatever I like, and I would like to reflect for a few moments on love and relationships.
This day ushers in the beginning of a wonderful new phase in lives of this couple. Perhaps the wisest thing anyone has ever said to me about marriage and love is this: love is a decision.
On the surface it sounds a fairly clinical and unromantic assessment, but if you think about it a little deeper you will realize that there is truth in these words.
It’s easy to fall in love. When a young couple first meet, the world looks rosy, neither can do any wrong, nothing can touch them. Polly has done it many times.
But as you grow into your relationship and the realities of life take hold- things like a mortgage, kids (one day I hope) joys and sufferings, general ups and downs – you start to realize that love is a conscious decision.
Relationships take a lot of work. You have to be working at them all the time so that you grow together. When you hit a bump, that’s the time to stop and say “Love is a decision. I made a conscious decision to love this man or this woman, despite his or her shortcomings, and despite my not agreeing with everything he or she says and does.
“Because I love this person, I can resolve any problem we might face.” If you look at love in this way, then nothing can stop you.
POLLY AND JUSTIN
Polly I have known all her life, from the time she was drawn out from her mother’s womb, to the present moment - the beautiful young woman you see before you now. Much has happened in the years between. It would be remiss of me not to comment on a few memorable moments of her life such as in Year 1 when she “Flashed” passing traffic in her school uniform from roadside bushes, or when .in year 10 she mysteriously disappeared from her bedroom from 11.00pm to 3am on a fairly regular basis when she was out “clubbing.” For the former, she was spanked by her teacher, for the latter, she was “grounded” by her parents for 6 months.
In her defence, in those intervening years,...