Hinduism and Marriage
In a hindu marriage the words and action means more than just words.
It is a guide for the rest of the life.
According to Hinduism, a marriage between two persons is a sacred
relationship that is not limited to this life alone. It extends across
seven or more lives, during which the couple help each other progress
spiritually. The adage that marriages are made in heaven is very much
true in case of Hinduism. Two souls come together and marry because
their karmas are intertwined and they have to resolve many things
together upon earth in order to ensure their mutual salvation.
The relationship between a couple is essentially a relationship of the
souls. It is not necessary that their gender roles are fixed for ever.
Some times they may switch roles and the husband may become the wife
and the wife the husband. Sometimes they may also temporarily part
their ways and come together again after one or two lives in a grand
Marriage in Hinduism is a sacred relationship. Hindu marriage
tradition recognizes seven different types of marriage, ranging from
the popularly known arranged marriages to the extremely rare and
forced marriages through abduction. Generally most of the marriages
are arranged with the consent of the bride and the bridegroom and the
blessings of the elders. Caste, family background, financial status of
the groom, appearance and character of the bride and the bridegroom,
the willingness of the parents are some important considerations in
Love marriages are on the increase, but there is still a lot of
skepticism about them. Love marriages within the same caste and
financial background are favored, compared to inter-caste and
inter-religious marriages. Couples who dare cross the social
conventions have to cope with a lot of social pressure within their
families and outside. These problems are more acute in the rural areas
compared to the urban areas and metropolitan cities. Much depends upon
the family background. If parents are educated and enlightened on both
sides, things would be easier for the children, who get involved in
One of the evils of Hindu marriages is the ubiquitous dowry system.
The amount of dowry can be a very substantial amount, even in dollar
terms, depending upon the financial status of the parties involved.
Sometimes greedy mother-in-laws and husbands subject the poor brides
to innumerable hardships for not meeting their expectations in respect
of the dowry. Cases of bride burning are not unknown. Indian penal
code prescribes severe punishment for such acts. But the cases take
years and decades before the courts deliver justice.
In arranged marriages the marriage is consummated...