Definition Essay Draft: I’m not that interesting
This thought came to me when I am among the crowd of extroverts. Majority of my friends are extroverts. Therefore I feel so out of the place every so often. If you don’t know who I am… let me clarify. I don’t speak my mind, I keep to myself. I’m more of a thinker, than a speaker. I prefer to text than call. Prefer to write than talk. I prefer to stay in my cocoon than mingle. But what’s wrong? Don’t pull me out of my comfort zone. Don’t pull me out to the world of extroverts. So let me tell you a secret, yes I am an introvert but I am not shy.
Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. Honestly, it is ostensible to say that an introvert equates to shyness. An Introvert, unlike a shy individual, is not nervous during social gatherings. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people. Take the analogue of a balloon. Just like how a balloon shrinks when in contact with external stimulation, similarly, an introvert’s energy level is ephemeral. It decreases while social interaction increases. So once the balloon is empty, it need some time to refuel again.
Introverts are not shy. Have you been asked ‘Why are you so quiet’? If you do, then you are probably under the same category as me. When extroverts start asking questions like “Are you okay?” they imply that something is wrong. And sometimes — after constant bombarding— we might start to believe them. I spent years feeling guilty whenever I reject friends to spend some ‘alone’ time. Subsequently, I mastered the trick behind it. I pushed myself to be social—even when it felt exhausting. After that, I will return to my nest to rest and recharge. Ultimately, it is insatiable to satisfy the extroverts’ insidious questions. While it may be empirical to know that they are concern about us, just want to let them know. Fear not. We aren’t upset. Or angry. Or depressed. Or scared. Or nervous. Or any other negative emotion you can think of. We aren’t talking because we’re probably doing something else. We are either thinking, listening or watching. Sounds silly to you, probably, but our brain pathways are much longer than yours. It literally takes us longer to come up with a thought and then put it out into the world. Sometimes by the time we have thought of the appropriate syntax and diction, the conversation topic has passed and we have to craft the next word to say again. As a result, we end up not talking.
Introverts hate crowds. Introverts often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time to alone to "recharge." Nevertheless, they are not necessarily afraid of people. However, they prefer to stick to their comfort zone. They tend to fall back on the few close friends instead of...