“They are willing to sell themselves in order to find a better life for themselves or
to have money to send back home, or to make sure their children are raised in a better
county.” (Bell 1). For decades, beautiful Russian and Asian women have been seen in
catalogs as mail-order brides. Although the mail order bride industry promises American
men a beautiful, obedient, foreign wife, it fails to mention the negative atmosphere
included within these situations. Mail order brides should be banned in the United States
in order to reduce the increase of domestic violence amongst women (Chittenden 5), the
testing of a bride’s selflessness (Bell 1), and internet scams (Internet Relationships 1).
Immigration in the United States has increased over the years. Nevertheless, the
process may take weeks, even months at a time. Mail order brides are no exception either.
They undergo a similar process in order to immigrate as well. Being a vulnerable
immigrant to the United States, mail order brides are very prone to domestic violence and
abuse from their American husband. Immigrant brides are forced to adapt to a new home
which also includes getting used to new customs and traditions. Throughout the process
of learning, the brides tend to be obedient, in which lack of leads to violence and other
types of abuse. A popular technique abusive husbands use is the threat to deport the poor
bride back to her home where she will suffer in poverty.
The process of immigration within circumstances of a mail order bride moving to
the U.S. tends to be gradual and complicated. In order to immigrate to the United States,
the bride has two options. Under the Immigration Naturalization Services (INS), the
American groom could either marry the mail order bride then apply for a "Petition for an
Alien Relative" while the bride applies for an Immigrant Visa, or apply for the "Fiance
Visa". If "Petitioning for an Alien Relative" is granted, the couple is given a conditional
visa and must remain as a married couple. Only then are they allowed to apply for the
conditionality to be removed. The Fiance Visa, however, requires the bride and groom to
wed in the U.S and only then can the husband file a petition with the INS. The visa's
condition is that the couple must have met in person at least once within two years
preceding filing the visa. If so, the bride is given ninety days to travel to the U.S. and
marry the man she is engaged to. If the marriage does not take place within the ninety
day period, then the bride is returned home. “The Fiance Visa gives the couple the
freedom to cancel at the last minute.” (Chittenden 8).
After immigration documents are finalized, the newly weds begin their new lives.
However, having a happily ever after is not always the case. In fact, because the
immigrant bride is unfamiliar with her new country, she is forced to...