Family is an important moral thing in the life. It’s the place where every achievement starts. The presence of the family is necessary for the development of civilizations too (Scholasticus, 2011). However, there are two important formation of families, one of then is a nuclear family, which defines as “a couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit.” Another one is an extended family, which is “a family which extends beyond the nuclear family to include grandparents and other relatives” (Oxford Dictionaries, 2014). I believe that living with extended family cause several problem to the family members, and children (Hewings & Thaine, 2012) and couples (Al Khoori, 2014) are the most members who feel discomfort and upset of live with. Living with extended family is not a good idea because you will lose your independence, freedom, and the relationship with your family will affected negatively.
The extended family cannot create a fully independent generation, because usually the younger members treated with spoil, and other thing that the marriage life will lose it’s independence. As Al Omosh (2014) believes, the child should have a healthy environment from his first years. In Arabs society, Sometimes, if the father punished his son, he will go directly to his grandparents and he will get away with his mistake. “That will lead to confusion for the child. He will not know who to look up to or listen to.” (Al Omosh cited in Al Khoori , 2014). The person who treated like this will not have a chance to live in independent life. That is a really bad issue in extended family, because in the childhood, the child’s personality and self-consciousness will be formed at that ages, and he needs his parents’ disciplinary authority to help him to be an independent person in the future. Moreover, experts says that most emirates families nowadays prefer not to live with extended families because because the marriage life is a new life for the couple, and they must discover it themselves (Mr. Al Omosh cited in Al Khoori, 2014). They will learn how to raise their children by their own experience, and that will teach them how to be independent parents (Al Omosh cited in AL Khoori, 2014) unlike if they were live with extended family. Abdullatif Al Azazi from Excellence center believes the same thing, living in an independent house is the best way to start a new life, because they will be able to know your responsibilities and plan for their future (Al Khoori, 2014).
Other drawback of extended family is that your freedom and privacy will be so limited. You cannot do whatever you want whenever you are! There will be many roles that you should follow and many others you shouldn’t do. As Lester, (2010) says, nowadays, the life became more developed, and as a result people became much busier and want to enjoy their lives with freedom. Therefore, living with their grandparents and parents can be an obstruction for them. The...