Competence in interpersonal communication can be assessed both through general interpersonal interactions and non-verbal communication. Both general competence and non-verbal competence are very important to the way that we communicate and have great influence on the message that we relay to those with whom we communicate. After watching the conversation recorded between Matt and I, I have realized that although there are some areas in which I am a competent communicator, there are areas where I could benefit to improve.
General Interpersonal Competence-
According to Canary, Cody, and Manusov, there are six criteria used to assess general interpersonal competence. These six standards are: adaptability, conversational involvement, conversational management, empathy, effectiveness, and appropriateness (p. 506). To evaluate my personal overall competence in interpersonal communication, I am going to focus on adaptability, conversational involvement, conversational management, and attentiveness.
Adaptability, which is the way we change our behaviors to be appropriate for different interpersonal situations, has six factors: social experience, social composure, social confirmation, appropriate disclosure, articulation, and wit (Canary, Cody, & Manusov, 2008, p. 506). Social experience is the idea that we have participated in social interactions before, and because of this we are able to develop communication skills on our own that teach us how to interact in certain situations. This is pretty standard for most people, including myself. Although with every conversation I have I learn something more about communicating and how to be a good communicator, I would suggest that I have had enough social interaction in my life to at least guide me through most interpersonal situations (Canary, Cody, & Manusov, 2008, p. 506).
Social composure is our ability to keep calm “perceive situations accurately.” I feel that I am not alone when I say that for some reason, the moment someone puts a camera in front of me I tend to become more a bit awkward, but even in situations where I feel semi-uncomfortable, I am still able to keep my composure pretty well without much struggle. Social confirmation helps communicators adapt to their partner and notice their partner’s efforts of self-presentation. In this factor, you would adapt to your partners self-presentation goals in an attempt to understand them better and communicate more efficiently with them. If you can adapt to their goals it will allow for a more cohesive pattern of communication (Canary, Cody, & Manusov, 2008, p. 506).
Appropriate disclosure refers to the amount of information that is shared in the conversation, including both the breadth and depth of subject matter. In our conversation, I think we both did very well with this particular concept. Our range of disclosure was quite appropriate for an eight minute discussion between acquaintances. I feel that if any deeper information would have...