I walk down the school hallway or the streets, and see couples holding hands or giving each other kisses on the cheek. A sickened look captures my face as I walk by and hear those three words, “I Love you”. Then it dawns on me, do they really love each other? Do they understand what they are saying? If it isn’t love what do they have? Many people question the difference between love and lust, and if they are able to have both.
In my opinion, it is possible that love can turn into a passionate relationship and the sexual tension between two partners can eventually turn into love. However, there is no guarantee that one will generate the other.
Lust means to have an intense desire or sexual need towards someone. It is just a mere infatuation of fulfilling your sexual desires. Having a passionate relationship can eventually get past the physical and become love. In “Plato: The Perfect Union”, by Diane Ackerman, It talks about the thoughts and speculation of convinced theorists viewpoint of love. Each philosopher defines love as a need to be absolute through another being or to feel whole. In a way, lust can be viewed as being one with a being. Lust is the physical aspect of the relationship; it does not mean two people are in love with the other person. However, they yearn to feel whole with them. “For the intense yearning which each of them has towards the other does not appear to be the desire of lover’s intercourse, but of something else which the soul of either evidently desires and cannot tell.” (Ackerman 878). In this quote Ackerman is expressing, once two beings are able to get pass what is just a physical and sexual attraction, they have a feeling they can not explain. This desire and pursuit of being together is called love. Their souls can not tell what it is because if it was just lust it would be easily explainable. It is proven in this literary work that when having that sexual tension between another person, and getting passed what drew you near them in the first place, the two beings can eventually fall in love.
On the other hand, there are being that are able to fall in love and confide in each other without being sexually attracted. This type of union is considered very genuine and unadulterated. In William Shakespeare’s, Sonnet 116, love is characterized in its most ideal form. The sonnet is congratulating lovers who have come to each other freely. The first four lines identifies the Shakespeare’s admiration for how love is stable and “will not alter when alterations finds” (Shakespeare 345). In the fifth line, he speaks about love being a guiding star to lost ships (wandering barks). The love theme of this sonnet expresses love in a positive way. When love comes first there is some other force that attracts them, which is not the desire of intercourse.
In “Plato: The Perfect Union”, it is revealed that people long to find that person to become whole with. For example, “To Plato lovers are incomplete halves of...