What We Talk About When We Talk About Love By Raymond Carver

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The story “What we Talk about when we talk about Love” by Raymond Carver introduces four grown up characters who have experiences in their marriage life. The story tackles the elusive nature of love. This is evident when the characters vehemently try to describe it. Mel, the talkative surgeon, tries to give his thoughts on love but does not manage to convince the others. The other couple in the room believes they know the real meaning of love but find it difficult to define it. However, in the end of the day, they seem to come to togetherness and are intertwined by the essence of love. The story “Yellow Woman” by Leslie Marmon Silko, tells the story of a young woman who encounters a romantic escapade with a stranger. It involves a girl who runs away with a stranger whom she meets at the river. The stranger tries to convince her that she is the Yellow Woman from an old tale, and he is the Ka’tsina spirit. Silva tries to convince her that they were meant to be together. Although she does not believe him, she continues along with him as he provides her with an escape from reality. In both stories, we can see that love is a stronger emotion than hate, and it wins the day.
In the story by Silko, a young woman is walking by the river when she meets a handsome stranger named Silva. Silva is a cattle rustler living in the mountains and does not belong to any tribe. Although the young woman has a husband and baby, she runs away with the stranger. Although it may seem that Silva is abducting her, she twice returns to him even when she has a chance to run away. As she points out, “And I told myself, because I believe it, he will come back sometime and be waiting again by the river” (1210). When a white rancher confronts Silva and the yellow woman, Silva instructs her to ride away. When she reaches the other side of the hill, she hears four shots and assumes that Silva is dead. She decides to return back to her people, with the belief that Silva would come back again. She decides to tell her family that, “Navajo had kidnapped her and she was sorry that old grandpa wasn’t alive to hear her story” (1210).
The yellow woman in the story seems to be longing for a lover. It is the story of a woman faced with choice of family or illicit love. While it may seem as simply a story of an adulterous woman who abandons her family for her own sexual escapades, it may be described as a story tackling the conflicts of how people deal with their fears and temptations. The yellow woman seems confused about her identity and starts feeling like a yellow woman.
The story by Carver involves four characters discussing the meaning of love. Mel is a 45 years old and is a surgeon. Mel, who does most of the talking, describes an example of love that he witnessed, while performing a surgery. He recounts of how he treated an elderly couple that had been involved in a severe accident. As Mel points out, the man was very bothered because he could not merely look at his wife. Although...

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