Struggles, setbacks, and family tragedy, have not lacked in my life; yet I hold tightly onto my dreams, and seek for a means to feel a sense of accomplishment. My journey had led me in search for a book which I can identify with and acquire new knowledge to help me persevere in the goals that I have set for myself. I wanted a book that would help me grow without overlooking to my past experiences, but would help me utilize my failures and tragedies as a stepping-stone to self-development, maturity and my experience in my life now. My narrow search led me to a book that immediately captured my attention with its title, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg. It ...view middle of the document...
As Sheryl Sandberg explains:
“We hold ourselves back in ways both big and small by lacking self-confidence, by not raising our hands, and by pulling back when we should be leaning in. We internalize the negative messages we get throughout our lives – the messages that say that it’s wrong to be outspoken, aggressive, more powerful than men. We lower our own expectations of what we can achieve. We continue to do the majority of the housework and childcare, we compromise our career goals to make room for partners and children, who may not even, exist yet. Compared to our male colleagues, fewer of us aspire to senior positions. This is not a list of things that other women have done. I have made every mistake in this list. At times I still do”(page 8).
She also justifies that men should be more involved and an active partner in the home. As Gloria Steinman once observed, “It’s not about biology, but about consciousness” (108). Men and women believe that it is nature not nurture. The time that men and women spend on childcare and on the household should be equal, but women tend to naturally do the nurturing because it’s what they’re taught. This is where traditional gender roles are reinforced, not just by individuals, but also by employment policies.
Sandberg’s main focus is to deal with the internal barriers corresponding to gender roles, the lack of self-confidence, and the expectations that we impose on ourselves, which hold us back when an opportunity arises because we feel that they are within our control. She directs the issues to both genders because one may or may not compliment the other if either is willing. Sandberg depicts the need of more women in power. She instills that when the opportunity arises for them to step up instead, they step aside because of the fear as being perceived “ambitious”.
Throughout time, society has set guidelines for male and females. Girls are presumed to be “pretty, nice and nurturing” and boys are persuaded to be “self-reliant and ambitious”. We all think, and grow, in terms of standards that have been imposed on us, and as time goes by we realize it doesn’t necessarily need to be that way. Yet, by the time we find that the internal barriers have taken root within us, they are difficult to deal with. These ideals shouldn’t be an impediment to seek leadership or to succeed as woman. According to a survey done to Millennial (referred to the generation born between 1980 and 2000), woman were less likely to see themselves as “leaders,” “visionaries,” “self-confident,” and are less willing to take risks than men. Men, for the most part, have a tendency to pursue leadership roles, and they acquire them because they don’t limit themselves the way women do. Women are accustomed to think that they are to take care of family and house, while men go out work and lead in the workforce.
Though, this stereotype continues to linger, it is very slowly its shifting. It is possible for women to be successful, not...