Deep Thoughts #2 -- Many Women Marry For the Wrong Reason
“Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished,” said Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. An American wealth-research corporation, Prince and Associates, once did a research on a sample group of more than thirty women that if they would marry for money. Surprisingly, about approximately seventy-five percent of the group said “yes”. In fact, many women admit that they would rather marry a billionaire that they barely know than a penniless guy they truly love. We often read in novels and see it in those late night soap dramas, in the most romantic setting with exquisite background music, the main character solemnly promises his passionate love to the female actor with ninety-nine roses in his hand; the female character of course feels touched by his actions and blissfully accepts his proposal. Depressingly, those fairy-tales are too beautiful to become true. Take Mr. and Mrs. Bennet from Pride and Prejudice for an example, it is quite obvious that these two irresponsible adults did no marry for pure love. Mr. Bennet was more attracted to Mrs. Bennet’s physical appearance in his youth, and he rushed into courtship without further consideration. As time passes, Mrs. Bennet no longer has her good-looking face. Twenty years later, Mr. Bennet lost interest in her and regret ever marrying her. As you can see, in the twenty-first century, a time full with fierce competition, material gain is the first thing most women concern about when they marry, followed by physical attraction and security to a stable home.
In the book of Pride and Prejudice, Mr. Wickham is a typical character who marries only for the desire of money. “Regard for my sister’s credit and feelings prevented any public immediately, and Mrs. Younge was of course removed from her charge. Mr. Wickham’s chief object was unquestionably my sister’s fortune, which is thirty thousand pounds… (Austen 173). From Darcy’s description of Mr. Wickham, we can see many modern time women’s shadow. For people who are not deeply in love with each other, financial needs are probably one of the most general motivations for them to marry. Especially if they are people that are lacking sufficient money, they are desperate to find a way to solve their debt problems. These people take marriage as a relief from destitution. After his incident with Georgiana, Mr. Wickham stays morally bankrupt and tries the same trick again on Lydia Bennet by convincing Lydia to elope with him. If it is not for Mr. Darcy’s kindness to reach out and help the Bennet’s family by giving Mr. Wickham enough money so he will agree to marry Lydia, all of the Bennet girls’ reputation will be ruined and they will face extreme shame from their sister’s reckless behavior in the future.
Another practical and frequent reason for women to marry is physical attractions. “You and the girls may go, or you may send them by themselves,...