Marriage and Security
Nowadays, when people think about marriage, they usually think of two people, deeply in love, who decide to bind their lives to live together. Unfortunately, that is not always the truth. There are many reasons other than love that cause marriage. Marriage has different meanings for everyone, depending on the era, the economic situation, and the culture in which they lived. But no matter what these different reasons are, the main idea has always been the same. People get married for the sake of security. This can be seen by looking at different types of marriages and finding the similarities underlying each.
Although not many people are aware of it, one of the most common types of marriage was and in some parts of the world still is “Arranged Marriage”. “Arranged marriage is a marriage where the marital partners are chosen by others, based on considerations other than the pre-existing mutual attraction of the partners.” This method was practiced especially in noble families, where two different families came together and decided that the son in one family should marry the daughter of the other. (Arranged Marriage) Arranged marriages were done in order to combine the strengths of both families. It was like a pact between the families who, by this way shared their nobility, wealth and property. Centuries later, arranged marriages are still common all over the world. The reason behind these marriages is the parents’ intention to make their children marry someone of their own class, someone ‘suitable’ for them. It is also, as in old times, a pact between the two families to share their wealth and help each other when needed. Therefore, arranged marriages do not mean ‘love-marriages’ mentioned in the common definition of marriage, but they are obligations that the children have to fulfill for the older people in their families. Although these marriages tend to last a lifetime, that does not necessarily mean that the couples are happy, and get along well. They usually don’t get a divorce; because they know that their marriage has much more profound meanings and purposes than their relationship only. This marriage is how the two families secure their business and therefore their property.
Another type of marriage, which used to be common and is still practiced today, is “Catholic Marriage.” In a Catholic Marriage, both sides are free to marry who ever they choose. In this way it can be considered as a love-marriage. What is different is that their intentions must also be religious. “They must intend an exclusive, lifelong, childbearing union.” (Catholic Marriage) Also, the couples who get a Catholic marriage, with the aim of serving God, also face a big problem. Contrary to the marriages we know of, since it is accompanied by divine ratification, creating an idissoluble union, no divorce is possible. (Catholic Marriage) This, of course, has always created problems and still does, if the couple later realizes that they...