Reframing, Eye Contact, and Nonverbal Communication
Reframing takes skill for a counselor to use, listening to the client’s story then either drawing from personal experiences or provide a theoretical perspective to provide the client a new way of thinking about his or her issues (Ivey, Ivey, & Zalaquett, 2012). Eye contact shows the counselor is interested in what the client has to say, but continuous eye contact may create uneasiness with a client. An example would be concerning Asian American’s; most believe that being looked in the eye is a sign of hostility (Sue & Sue, 2013). Nonverbal communication consists of the visual/eye contact, vocal qualities, attentive and ...view middle of the document...
Nonverbal communication is a counselor reflecting the client’s emotions through facial expressions, hears the client’s emotions, and shows these emotions back to the client (Ivey, Ivey, & Zalaquett, 2012). Facial expressions allow the client to visualize the counselor has empathy and understands the client’s emotions. When a client state they are not happy with the way their life is going, the counselor may show an apprehension look.
The counselor in the couples counseling video, (Laureate Education, Inc., 2010e), demonstrated using the couples to paraphrase what the other one said, which I found to be very useful as this shows the couple that they are doing active listening to one another. I believe it is important when counseling couples the couples know the importance of listening to what each other has to say. When counseling couples I would listen to what each other has to say and then use what was said to turn into a positive instead of a negative. An example is when a couple complains about not giving one another enough attention because one was always in the house and the other outside. I might mention that both are in the same area together, instead of one out at the bars and one out with friends. Perhaps the couple can find time to do things together inside and outside the house, which they both enjoy doing. “Couples with relationship difficulties can be helped if they focus more on the areas where things are going well” (Ivey, Ivey, & Zalaquett, 2012, p. 125).
Eye contact and nonverbal communication appear to fall under the same category. When counseling couples, I would need to have eye contact with both when I am talking. When the couple is talking, I need to focus on expressions of the partner speaking, and expressions of the partner listening so I can gain valuable information pertaining to body language. Either nonverbal communication is using my hands to either show the couple togetherness by holding my hands close together when talking, or my hands are apart showing the disconnection the couple may have.
Appling Skills Differently with Individuals and Couples
These skills may...