Monogamy: Its essence and benefits
“From this moment, I, take you, as my best friend for life. I pledge to honor, encourage, and support you through our walk together. I promise to provide for your needs and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow” (Daversa). This vow is an example of words expressed between a man and woman on their wedding day as they face one another and declare their love in front of family and friends. However, when the same man says these words on more than one occasion to different women, then the validity is called into question. Monogamy is the practice or state of being married to, or having a sexual relationship with one person at a time (Little et. al. 1275). Although rare, monogamous relationships can be observed among animals in the wild. Beavers, which mate for life, use their union as a survival tool to construct and maintain their dams (Caraza). While humans are considered animals, they have developed beyond their counterparts to develop a whole set of complicated emotions - love, jealousy, rage, and depression. Generally, animals have no need for emotional fulfillment. Their brains do not have the capacity to house these feelings that humans have come to develop. Humans, on the other hand, have emotional needs, and among these are to express love and to receive love in return. Man's greatest fear is loneliness, and monogamy helps give humans that deep, emotional connection with another human being that we all need to survive (Becker 34). Monogamy provides individuals with emotional and physical stability that cannot be achieved with alternatives to monogamy.
There are many people who are of the opinion that monogamy is monotonous without surprises or excitement. They seek alternatives to satisfy the burning desire that has enveloped them. This desire usually involves the pursuit of more adventure, thrill, or pleasure. To fulfill these desires, one can pursue casual sexual relations, illicit affairs, or marriage to more than one person. These alternatives to monogamy can stem from the fear or consequence of monotonous boredom. The advent of Internet and online dating tools, which makes it easier to meet and date many people, have escalated the occurrence of casual relations and polygamy. Dating websites connect individuals based on compatibility and thus, making it possible to start relations with multiple people in a short amount of time. Additionally, people who are enduring hardship in their relationships now have a platform where they can meet others in similar situations, share stories, and pursue relationships with those people to satisfy their unfulfilled fantasies. The question now arises: How many couples today, truly practice monogamy? Regardless of what the answer may be, the underlying foundation of marriage and the essence of monogamy cannot be relegated.
Frequent casual relations with various partners stem from an urge to...