Throughout history and today, we women are constant victims of stereotyping. Certain “rules” have to be followed and certain “ideal” women images have to be kept. They are raised to fill certain position in the society and because of this, the opportunities are always limited and ideas of our importance in the society are diminishing. Even though women gained some independence, where women can work and take various position in society, the society’s idea of typical role of women never seem to change.
I still remember how my grandmother and my mother’s life were like. Although the women rights in the society are getting better from previous generation to the next generation, we are still expected to play women’s role. I, too, am in the same position as my grandmother and my mother.
My grandmother lived her whole life as a hard working housewife. Back in her days, the opportunities for women were always limited and the only thing that women could do was to become housewives. People were very conservative to the idea of the traditional role of a man and a woman. Men are always the provider and women are always the caregiver. Men held more power because of the fact that they earned money. It is hard for people to lose the conservative idea because the idea was around since the beginning of the era. So, rightful place for woman was not a workplace, but at home.
Women were also not allowed to receive any higher education, so my grandmother was only allowed to be educated through elementary school and after that, she was educated by her mother how to be a housewife during her childhood and teenage years to prepare her for marriage. People believed women being trained at such a young age were right thing to do because the better housewife a woman becomes, the better a successful man will choose you. Also, women were not allowed to make their own decision on who to marry and when to marry. All of those things were decided by their parents. It did not matter if a man was old and wrinkly, as long as the man had money and successful career you will devote your life to him. This was the only thing a woman needed to know. So, she was taught constantly, non-stop by her mother until she was wedded, but the education was far from being over.
When she got married to my grandfather, she stayed home with her mother-in-law to learn how to be their “perfect” house wife. It was no different than being a slave. She would be always confined like a prisoner in the house and would be scolded every day, nonstop. She never rested from day and night because her chores were far from being done and taking care of her eight children all on her own was a challenge. My grandfather did not take any responsibilities because men believed that nurturing and caring for a child was a duty of women, not men. Because there were many mouths to feed and money was short, she would always buy things in debt and farm. Every day of her life was a constant struggle.
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