Nothing satisfies like relationships filled with mutual respect, affection, honesty and integrity. When you think of a "Relationship," the first thing that may come to mind is the relationship between a husband and wife, but relationships are important in every area of our lives. From your connection with your parents and children, to your association with co-workers and neighbors; it is important to realize the importance of building relationships.
Most relationships fail because of assumptions-unwritten rules that were never discussed or agreed upon. When universal relationship laws are followed, they lead to a successful life-a life of abundance, productivity, a life that is emotionally and relationally rich-in short, life becomes a celebration. It is important to negotiate the rules of a relationship. But how do you do that. I think with skill, firmness and kindness rather than negative emotional baggage.
The initiating, part of the relationship with my daughter of course was when she was born December 11th 1982, I did not see her until 3 days later. When I first saw I instantly fell in love. We I held her we bonded, I felt a connection like no other. We got to no each other because I held her as much as any father would want to hold there newborn. However the drugs in my life became more important. I broke up with the mom in 1984.
I continued on my quest of feeling sorry for myself and continued with my drug using. It wasn't until July 1988 that I went to a Detox, then to a 28 day program. My relationship with myself started that day. When my daughter came back into my life I was 4 years clean and she was 10yrs old. I regret a lot of things one is not staying in school and the other is not being there for my daughter. It was hard at first because she would remind me I wasn't around. I continued to stay positive and reassure her that I could not change the past, only be the best Dad for the future. Our Initiating, bonding and other stages started all over again. Today so far I thank god I've been clean for 15 years, my daughter is 21 years old and has 3 children. She graduated High School and is currently attending Community College. The best part is that we have an awesome relationship and I quote "You are the best Dad in the whole world". Love...