My Stepmother The Fish Essay

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Parents play an important role in a child’s development. However, some say that stepmothers play a little part in a child’s life, while others are of the opinion that stepmothers play a big part in a child’s life. Some stepmothers are hated and have little influence on the child’s development, while others are loved and play a tremendous role of influence on the child. Having lived with my stepmother for over 12 years, I would fall under the latter of the two situations, especially since she was an alcoholic. According to the NACOA (National Association for Children of Alcoholics), “Almost one in five adult Americans (18%) lived with an alcoholic while growing up” (Children). Many may say this would have devastated their childhood. However, I feel fortunate that I had the chance to experience and learn first hand of the hardships that can occur when a parent is an alcoholic. This experience taught me some important issues that have helped and will continue to help me in my life.

        In the beginning my stepmother, Kathy, was an excellent example of how a stepmother can play a great and important part in a child’s life. She met my father thirteen years ago. After a year of dating, they decided to get married. She was the best stepmother me and my brother could have asked for. She normally agreed with us, and we got things we never got before, like cool birthdays, great Christmas presents, and did cool activities. She was also a very successful dog groomer in which she won many south east regional awards. However, about four years into her and my father’s marriage she started drinking very heavily. She had always drunk a lot before, but she had started drinking more and more during all parts of the day. After about a year of the heavy drinking, she lost her job and stopped competing. It was at this time I realized she was an alcoholic. Her conversations started becoming more incoherent each day. She would repeat things as if she had not said them before. A common example was after I would come home she would ask, “How you feeling Chris, you ok?” I would always reply, “I’m fine.” She would mutter something incoherent then start to ask the same question again, “How you feeling Chris, you ok?” This would continue up to ten minutes at times. It wasn’t long before my views of Kathy started changing. I started becoming very aware to the effects of alcohol. It was at this point I told myself I would never abuse alcohol. I now realize Kathy was the reason I didn’t drink alcohol until six months after I turned twenty-one. She had indirectly taught me something, what I never want to become. However, the worse was yet to come.
        After about two years of her heavy drinking, I realized how devastating alcohol could be on oneself. Kathy started becoming violent and paranoid. There was an incident with her and my father while out on his boat. She wanted to go home but my father was not going fast enough. She...

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