How we perceive ourselves is different from how other people perceive us. The first impression is not created by what we think or ourselves but by how we present ourselves and how other people perceive this presentation. Therefore, there are certain traits that we may carry along that we do not necessarily think about but they influence what other people think about us. Negative character traits are always noticeable to other people even when we do not notice them. It is easier to judge a person negatively when there is a certain negative trait that is easily noticeable to the outside world (Houghton, Marshall & Rodgers, 2004). I therefore intend to take note of some of my traits that I need to change in order to have better impression on other people and create better relationships with people in my life.
First, I have been told by several people that I am somewhat introverted. This is a trait I need to change because it is difficult for people to relate with me if I remain as introverted as I am right now. Introverts are usually people who like to keep to themselves and are not outgoing. In the world we live in today, I have noticed that it is important to form networks and relate to people at a more personal level. This can only be done trough engaging in group work and team building activities (Roberts & Mroczek, 2008). In order to change this trait, I need to be more outgoing and participate in more outdoor events. This means that I have to consciously dedicate time and energy into activities that interest me that involve other people. By participating more in group activities, I will be able to let go of my introvert nature and reach out to more people.
In relation to the above, I am a quiet person which sometimes comes off as boring especially to people who do not know me. I rarely talk to strangers and I usually wait until someone talks to me for me to talk to them. I am not a conversation starter and this is usually difficult when trying to connect with other people. This trait has often led to people avoiding places where I am unless we are in a group of people. I am concerned that this trait could cause problems for me when relating with others. In order to change this trait, there are several things that I need to do. First, I need to be more open to conversations with other people whether I know them or not (Thompson, Constant, Oaks & Aldrich, 2007). In this case, I will set a goal of talking to strangers more even if it is just to ask them how their day is going or wishing them a good time. Secondly, I will ensure that I participate more in conversations with people whether in groups or not. Being quiet is not necessarily a bad thing as sometimes it is helpful to be quiet and listen to others. However, when it is detrimental to the creation of relationships with others, it comes off as negative and this is why am committed to changing it.
There are traits that we...