A few years ago, I was given my first computer and was introduced to the World Wide Web, and America Online (AOL) chat rooms. It never occurred to me that I would meet someone online that I would consider being in a relationship with, nor talk to more than a few times. I thought wrong.
In today's society where almost anything and everything is done online, online dating is not an uncommon or taboo thing to do anymore. There are numerous websites with billions of subscribers, who pay up to forty dollars a month, looking for their perfect matches. A few for examples would be: Match.com, Eharmony.com, FaceTheJury.com, Yahoo Personals, chat rooms, and the list continues. These websites let people create detailed profiles about themselves for others to read. Eharmony.com and Match.com actually create matches of the most compatible members, and then allow them to make contact and begin relationships. Free dating websites like FaceTheJury.com leave the match making up to their members.
Three years go I was in an AOL chat room, when a boy named Rob, Instant Messaged (Imed) me. We talked for hours everyday and became good friends. After about 6 months he suggested we have an online relationship. I thought the whole idea of having an online boyfriend was silly, but since I was so naive about the whole thing, I agreed. When I told my friends and family that I had become interested in someone who lives in Connecticut, that I had met online, everyone had a different opinion about it. My parents were skeptical because "everyone online is crazy and /or is a murderer". But after I told them everything I knew about Rob, they became more accepting. Some of my friends actually found Internet boyfriends of their own.
To be sure I could trust Rob's validity, I asked if I could speak with some of his friends. So he let me talk to his best friend, who eventually became a good friend of mine. After I knew I could trust him I wanted to extend or relationship from the computer so, we started talking on the phone and sending regular mail, or "snail mail", to each other. When it comes to taking the relationship offline and in person, there is always in issue with safety. It is important to find out as much as you can about that person to be sure they are whom they say they are, and pose no danger to you. If the person is reluctant to let you get to know their friends or others close to them, they may be suspicious. If you find that the person is not being truthful, it is best to limit contact with them and move on to someone new.
There have been stories on the news about young girls meeting privately with friends they met online, who turn out to be older men or someone they were not expecting. These young girls end up being raped, kidnapped, or murdered. This happens rarely, but enough to make it an issue. Recently a movie was made in order to spread...