.1. Why do some people advertise themselves for a date in a newspaper or online?
There are an endless number of reasons why people put ads out for dating, which are anywhere from convenience, to time since most of us have very busy schedules. It also allows people to get themselves out to a specific group that may or may not have been able to reach without this source. Many people don’t like the bar scene and feel it to be a somewhat more secure way of getting out there to perhaps meet new people with the possibility of meeting “the one”. For myself personally I am on a few dating sites for basically all the reasons which I have listed above. Generally the schedule I keep does not permit ample time to get out of my circle to meet new people that I may possibly care to date. In some situations it might be, a good way for more shy people to get into circulation in the dating world because it gives them a port of entry that is non- threatening nor is it as intrusive. Nonetheless this still poses many dilemmas and challenges to most that are engaging in the online dating lifestyles.
2. What could be an advantage and a disadvantage to this dating strategy?
There are some really favorable reasons for this strategy as well as some which are not so favorable. On the plus side, it is a fantastic way of screening a person want or does not want to correspond and possibly meet up with. You get a chance to talk with someone before actually doing a face to face meeting which is great so there are less feelings of rejection. You get to usually see pictures of the person you are corresponding with to see if a possible spark ignites between the two. Many individuals also do video chats to make certain that the person they are chatting with is one in the same, this helps to establish trust and aids in connecting to the person before the actual meeting. After this screening process the next step is to meet in person to see if what is shared online is the same face to face.
On the down side or negative side of online dating it can be dangerous and at times deadly if not careful. No one really even is assured who the other person is that is really on the other side of the computer. There are predators and sexually offenders and possible criminals and mentally unstable individuals that wish to prey on women to cause harm. Sometimes the course that the conversation spirals south compared to where a person may have thought it was originally going. One of my biggest problems with online dating is usually the pictures they post either are not them or they were taken twenty years ago and when going to meet up with them are sadly disappointed. I find many married couples want to have group sex disregarding the fact that in my profile I state I am a lesbian looking for another lesbian for a monogamous relationship possibly. I have tons of men that want to talk smut online and are posing as foreign women and fail to acknowledge their truths.
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