In your younger years would you most likely be clinging to your mom’s leg? Did you kind of bob your head behind those in front of you when the teacher was looking for a volunteer? Still doing that now?
Shyness and overpowering self-doubt are apparently very common, and they can paralyse you from moving forward in certain areas of life. But it doesn’t mean that you can’t deal with this issue that is trying to stunt you. You don’t have to be paralysed by shyness. There is every expectation that you can shine the image of the One Who created you.
From social gatherings, to business meetings, to your one-on-one relationships, if you want to break free from shyness, function better in relationships and be more comfortable when you are around people then read on. The Bible is not silent on this issue. In a world where relationships are everything, you must remember that you are set apart for the Lord and still stay true to who He has made you. Here is how to begin dealing with shyness:
It’s more of a mindset than what you do.
From someone cant really remember ever being shy but knows what it is to lack confidence as almost always the most junior elder in any setting, I’m about to open it up for you. What you are going to read is the approach of people make a difference, go after their calling and have blessed relationships.
This is a approach that if adopted will help you in many different aspects of life.
Set realistic expectations.
Everyone wants something different. One person may want to be the center of attention, whereas someone else may just want to be comfy in a business meeting or visiting friends.
As you learn this, it is important to be very clear about what God wants and what it looks like. The goal here is to get you to understand who God says you are and how He wants you to connect with people.
You are made in God’s image and likeness. You are created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared before for you to do. Your citizenship is in heaven. You are more wicked than you ever thought, but more loved than you ever hoped. You are a savour of life to those who are being saved, and death to those who are perishing.
Focus on sharing.
By far, the most effective thing to grasp in overcoming shyness is to switch your focus from self to others.
Remember the last time you were in a situation and you were nervous or shy? Im sure your focus was on self: how you looked, what you were going to say, how different you were from everyone else, if what you just said was stupid or not.
People that standout are concerned with the interests of other people, not just their own. Paul writes, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” (Phil...