move to the next stage.
Gilbert successfully passed through the oral stage of development which is focuses on pleasure through the mouth. During this stage the child is fully dependent on the parent and by developing comfort and trust, he is able to become less dependent. It does not seem like he became fixated at this stage because he learned not only to take care of himself, but also to take care of Arnie and the rest of his family. The next stage is the Anal stage, which focuses on toilet training. A child at this level must successfully learn control his bodily needs with the support and encouragement of parents at the right time. If parents are too lenient during this ...view middle of the document...
Gilbert might have been fixated at this level due to the non-ideal parent relationships. Non-ideal parent relationships that are too punitive or too indulgent produce fixations. The ideal parent relationship would balance punishment and indulgence. It is difficult to know how Gilbert’s relationship with their parents was because the film does not show his childhood. However, from his statements about the beauty of her mom, it is safe to assume that he was really close to his mom. On her part, his mom might have been too indulgent with him and his dad would punish him for wanting his mom as the object of desired. That would accurately explain why he got a fixation at the phallic stage of development. Gilbert did not get to resolve his emotional conflicts and never had the chance to identify with his dad. This is evident when he says that he would never leave the family as his father did. He still is hostile towards his father and does not identify with him, he rather tries to be different than him and be a better man than he was.
Moreover, the theory explains that the person fixated at a particular stage favors one force at the expense of the other. In Gilbert’s case he might have learned to deny his selfishness as a result of the non-ideal relationship he had with his father. It is accurate to assume that since his father was too punitive towards him, Gilbert might have been expected to behave accordingly with the social norms. Therefore, any anti-social behavior would be punished, so when Gilbert became an adult he learned to deny any anti-social behavior while continuously expressing only the behavior that his father would had approved of. In conclusion, the source of his conflict with his incompatible forces is in great part due to the non-ideal parent relationship that he experienced through his father.
At the end of the film Gilbert did overcome the Oedipus complex and was able to change the object of desire to another one more socially acceptable. He came to peace with his mom and was determined to not make her suffer again. This change in personality could be due to the fact that his mom also changed the attitude towards him; for the first time she hugged Gilbert and show motherly Loved that he might had not experienced because his dad would punish him for touching his mom. He then realized that his mom was not the right one to satisfy his sex instinct and therefore was able to get over the Oedipus complex. Gilbert’s mom did not become too indulgent with him, she only balanced indulgence with punishment when she said that it was not right of him to leave without saying anything. For the first time his mom applied the ideal parent relationship that Freud describes in the theory.
Further evidence of his change is seen when he burns down the house where the whole family lived. This act symbolizes the end of his previous personality and his advancement to the next stage. He forgot about the grudge he had against his father and provided...