Chapter 1- A Different Kind of Talking
1) Exercise 1.1
There is one person that really comes to mind that I admire in how she helps me deal with my Fibromyalgia. This angel on Earth is my “doctor” Kelly who is a Nurse Practioner. She has an incredible caring understanding aura around her. She has been knowledgeable and honest. If she does not know something she will do everything in her power to find out for me. She is always willing to listen to any problem with my health or any concerns.
I see myself being like Kelly as a counselor listening and gently guiding my client in the right direction. I love the way Kelly enters the room with a smile and a friendly word. I believe greatly in the healing power of a smile and laughter. I will do all I can to be knowledgeable and find out new information should I find I do not have the answer my client needs. I have spent 25 years as a cosmetologist so I have already developed the skill set of a helping person. I have catered to ladies, gentlemen and children (who seem to calm in my presence with them.)
2) Exercise 1.2
• Interviewer- I would feel like I am being studied or applying for a job.
• Provider- I would feel like someone cared enough to take care of me.
• Therapist- I would feel like I was a patient.
• Clinician- The name sounds cold and sterile.
• Counselor- The name sounds comforting.
• Crisis worker- The name sounds like someone that would help in a time of need.
• Milieu therapist- This name is foreign to me but it is oddly comforting.
• Case Manager- This title sounds cold and like I am a number. But it makes me feel like someone is in control.
• Shrink- This one sounds a little crazy like someone is going to delve into the inner recesses of my mind.
• Life Coach- This title is empowering and encouraging.
• Change Agent- Another cold title making me feel like someone is going to try to change who I am.
• Helper- This title is simple and comforting especially to someone in a crisis situation.
• Advocate- This word has a power and strength to it making me feel like someone “has my back”.
• Analyst- This makes me feel studied experimented on, not a good feeling.
3) Exercise 1.3 Values and Beliefs
The guiding beliefs in my life have developed from a deep-seated faith in God and the teachings of the Bible. My values include honesty, responsibility, optimism, respect, and equality between sexes, religions and socio-economic levels.
As an older more life experienced “counselor in training” I have developed ethics and confidentiality in my former career as a cosmetologist, also a helping profession. I do not feel that my beliefs or values will interfere with my professionalism. I do not see them as a challenge, other than controlling the urge to share my faith. And in AA they do encourage finding a higher power than self.
4) Exercise 1.4 Natural Style
My natural style is actually a combination of styles. I have always been the one everyone came to for a listening...