In Mark Knapp’s model of relationship development, there are 5 stages of romantic relationships coming together and 5 stages of romantic relationships coming apart. In this paper I will chose 4 stages to further explore. With each of the four stages I will use song lyrics to help analyze these stages. The first stage I have chosen to analyze is the stagnating stage and I used the song do I by Luke Bryan. Secondly, I chose the song falling for you by Colbie Caillet to help examine the intensifying stage. Third, I chose the integrating stage and I used the song from this moment on by Shania Twain featuring Bryan White to help interpret this stage. Lastly, I chose the song when I said I do by Clint Black and Lisa Hartman to explain the bonging stage of Mark Knapp’s model of relationship development.
According to Mark Knapp, the stagnating stage of ending a relationship is define as the stage of the relationship dissolution when the relationship stops growing and the partners are barely communicating. The song that I felt fit this stage is Do I by Luke Bryan. In this song Luke Bryan sings about how his relationship is falling apart. The song is about emptiness in the relationship. Also, the relationship is no longer growing. The song lyrics I found to fit this is “I could lean in to hold you or act like I don’t even know you, seems like you could care less either way.” This lyric gives a clear analysis that that relationship is not growing. The stagnating stage is further explained saying that the partners feel as if they are just “going through the motions.” The lyric that I think fits this is “baby what are we becoming it feels just like were always running, rolling through the motions every day.” I think this sentence gives a clear analysis that there is problems in the relationship where they do not seem to be communicating. The lyrics of this song fits Mark Knapp’s stagnating stage of romantic relationship development of coming apart perfectly.
Mark Knapp defines the intensifying stage as the stage of the relationship development when individuals move from being acquaintances to being close friends (Floyd 324). The song I found that fits this is falling for you by Colbie Caillat. In this song Coblie Caillat sing with emotion and feeling. I think this song fits this stage of Mark Knapp relationship research because she is moving from liking to loving. She sings “I think I’m falling for you.” In this lyric she is expressing verbally that the person is really important to her. The emotions that are shown in this song is happiness and love. Happiness is defined as a state of contentment, joy, pleasure, and cheer (Floyd 247). Love is defined as the emotion of caring for, feeling attached to, and feeling deeply committed to someone (Floyd 247). Also, in the song she also sings “I’ve been spending all my time just thinking bout you.” She has grown a close attachment to the relationship.
According to Mark Knapp’s research the...