Shyness can mean feeling uncomfortable, self-conscious, nervous, timid, or insecure. People who feel shy in situations may sometimes notice physical sensations such as blushing, feeling shaky, at a loss for words, and shortness of breath or accelerated breathing. When people feel shy, they tend to hold back and hesitate from saying or doing something because they're feeling unsure of themselves or what they may say, and are afraid others may judge them and what they say. But shyness does not have to interfere with achieving goals and making new friends. In early development, shyness and social fears can inhibit a shy child’s desire to play with others (Coplan et al., 2004). In this paper, I plan to further review shyness and its effects on social development in children, as well as propose ideas to help combat this issue in children. I hope to do this by first delving further into the problem, and what it may mean for a child growing up shy, then end with strategies to help a child overcome shyness and gain confidence. Shyness affects adults and children alike. New and unfamiliar situations can bring out shy feelings, like the first day of school or meeting someone new. Being quiet is not always the same as being shy. Shyness can be influenced by learned behaviors and life experiences one has had.
According to Bernardo J. Carducci, a professor of psychology and director of the Shyness Research Institute at Indiana University Southeast, There is no way one can be born shy. He assesses that the reason one cannot be born shy is because three major features characterize shyness: “excessive self-consciousness, excessive negative self-evaluation, and excessive negative self-preoccupation.” All three characteristic features of shyness involve a sense of self, and with the sense of self not developing until approximately 18 months of age and not at birth, one cannot be born shy. That being said, countless research shows that one may be born shy with shyness having a very big genetic component. Recognizing that shyness may be part of the child’s temperament can stop it from becoming a defining trait throughout life. I think it is important to address the issue of shyness early in a child’s development, with parents and teachers working together.
In working with children to overcome shyness, it is important to identify the nature of the child's shyness. Children are shy in different ways and for different reasons. Understanding the nature of the child's shyness will help in developing a program geared towards the child's specific needs. Is the child shy in groups? When meeting new people? Or, just about everywhere? Knowing the nature of the child's shyness will help identify the specific skills the child needs to be more at ease in social situations. In early development, shyness can inhibit a child’s desire to play with others and develop social skills.
In most cases, being shy or introverted may just be one of many personality traits a child has, and...