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Society's Low Expectations Of Teenagers Essay

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Did you know that elephant owners in Asia can keep their elephants in their yard with a simple piece of twine and a post in the ground? I’m sure you’re probably thinking, “How is that possible? Elephants are strong, smart, and have potential to do huge things.” The answer has nothing to do with the twine and the post; but it has everything to do with the twine around the elephant’s mind. The thing is, teenagers are a lot like elephants. We are strong, smart, and have incredible potential, but somehow we are held back by a tiny piece of string, held back by a lie; the lie that teenagers are rebellious, good for nothing, lazy bums. Today I am going to be talking about how this lie affects the relationship between adults and teenagers, the relationship between God and teenagers, and finally the relationships teenagers have with each other. If everybody, adults and teenagers alike, work together we can get rid of this horrible lie.
First I’m going to talk about how this lie affects relationships between adults and teenagers. Here’s the problem; adults don’t expect enough out of teenagers today. When I was doing research for this speech, I came across the website This website popped up first on Google, so it must by good. Right? WRONG! I went to the “setting up expectations” section by author, Denise Witmer. The list of expectations is pathetic! For pre and young teens, the expectations are making your bed everyday, being able to take a phone message, and cleaning your room once a week with help from Mom and Dad. ( There is a warning at the top of this list saying that these expectations might be overwhelming and too much for your teen, so just pick one to start with! The list for older teens isn’t much better. The expectations are the entire preteen list, just one daily chore and cleaning your room once a week with no help. ( Wow! That could be tricky! I don’t know if we could handle all of that! In the book “Do Hard Things” by fellow teens Alex and Brett Harris, they say, “The world almost expects less out of teenagers than they do of toddlers!” (Harris, Do Hard Things) Sadly, that statement is undeniably true. The problem with adults having low expectations of teenagers is this, we as teenagers live up to the expectations we are given. If adults believe the lie that teenagers are rebellious good for nothing lazy bums, we teenagers are going to live up to be just that.
Teenagers that are presented with low expectations from their parents or other authority figures are more likely to make bad choices and rebel. Did you know that the majority of teens that drink had their first sip of alcohol when they were only ten years old; and that today there are three million teens suffering from alcoholism? ( Did you know that the average age for teenagers trying marijuana is 14? (Drug Statistics) However, I believe the worst statistics involve teen...

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