The book, The DNA of Relationships, by Dr. Gary Smalley was a great, interesting book to read. Moreover than to improve my marriage relationship, I learned of what the actions to endanger all my relationships and taking the responsibility to have safe, full of heart steps to face the dangers. Overall, The DNA of Relationships was a powerful book to read to learn face the dangers of all the relationships and taking the steps to make sure that the relationships are strong and healthy in the eyes of God.
In The DNA of Relationships, there were two things that made me aware of what I had not thought of doing. First, I was aware that I shouldn’t give others the power to control my feelings. The statement stood out to me about how I can focus on the person and take the right steps of personal responsibility to refuse attention of what the person has done. The “not giving anyone the power to control my feelings” statement interacted me that I should give care to those who the person is, rather than what the person had done, that would build up our relationships. From here, I see the concept fitting me into my understanding of my faith and the Gospel in daily living. When I will be open to people that would have problems, I will help the person, but not the problem. Second, I was aware that I couldn’t force the other person to change. The statement stood out to me about how I cannot change people or even their personalities because they are not me
and I cannot be them. The statement also interacted me that I should not change the people around me for personality, but for faith. From here, for fitting into my understanding my faith, I cannot change people and their personalities, but I can change their faith by sharing my faith and spreading the Gospel.
Here in the present, I have many wants and fears in my life. In page 26, the wants that are most personal for me are grace, connection, companionship, self- determination, love, validation, respect, worth, honor, significance, comfort, support, approval, trust, hope, and joy. These wants of mine are the most personal because they are the closest that I have through many times in my life and best describes who I am. In page 27, my most personal fears are judgment, disconnection, failure, being misunderstood, worthlessness, humiliation, abandonment,...