The Effects of a Tumor on the Family Members
A tumor that is specifically in the frontal cortex can
cause many changes physically and emotionally which can affect
the way you interact with your family. Some of the functions of
the frontal lobe are attention, abstract thought, problem
solving, intelligence, creative thought, initiative inhibition,
judgment, mood, major body movements, bowel and bladder control,
memory and reasoning (retrieved from www.ect.org. What this
means is that you will not only experience these symptoms
internally but externally as well. Family members may start to
see the decline in your health and become concerned.
When diagnosed with a brain tumor it is important to share
this information with family and friends. Although this can be a
very difficult conversation to have, it is important for loved
ones to be informed. This conversation will not be easy to have
in fact, it can bring up many emotions and questions that are
challenging to discuss (retrieved from www.braintumor.org ).
Understanding what is happening to your loved one is essential
to answer questions and minimize any fears that one can have.
The patients Doctor is definitely a good resource as well as the
internet and the library. If revealing this news seems
impossible for you maybe, you can seek a social worker (many
times hospitals have one on staff), church or a therapist. It
is important to expect dynamics within the family to change.
This change can be due to financial hardships, changes in
schedules, emotions, stress etc.
There are definitely stages of acceptance that your loved
ones may experience. The stages of acceptance are; denial,
anger, resentment, depression, resignation and acceptance
(retrieved from www.cancersurvivors.org). They will not
necessarily experience them in order or even experience them all
but it is a possibility. Denial involves the rejection of even
the possibility that this could be happening. Anger involves
feeling upset at the world, the patient, the Doctor etc.
Acceptance is the emotion that includes excepting the situation
and remaining hopeful towards the future. If some family
members are having an especially hard time coping with the news,
it might be wise to seek family therapy.
Someone in the family might volunteer to help during the
difficult time. The effects of care giving can be rewarding and
stressful. It is important to remember that one person cannot
handle everything. Other family members and friends can assist
with even the smallest situations. Attempting to take on all
the responsibilities can lead to burnout or even anger towards
the person with the illness. As the caregiver, venting can be a
form of distressing yourself. Discussing ones feelings is
imperative, you do not even have to speak to a professional, you
can just speak to good friend (retrieved from www.abta.org...