The High Divorce Rate in the United States
Marriage is a commitment that seems to be getting harder to keep. The social standards placed on an individual by society and influenced by the media inevitably lead some to consider divorce as a “quick-fix” option. “Have it your way” has become a motto in the United States. It has become a country without any consideration of the psychological effects of marriage and divorce. The overwhelmingly high divorce rate is caused by a lack of moral beliefs and marital expectations.
Divorce can be caused by problems such as drugs, adultery, abuse, and money. The United States is a fast-paced country with little to no time to spend on the basic family values it was founded upon. Jobs are more demanding, kids are spending most of their time with people other than their parents, and the economy drains marriages by causing worry and stress. The foundation upon which marriage was built has been shaken.
Divorces are easy to obtain in the United States but the decision needs to be carefully examined. According to statistics, “divorce makes sense in the 10 percent to 15 percent of troubled marriages that involve high-level and persistent conflict with severe abuse and physical violence” (Dafoe 1). In the other 85 to 90 percent of marriages, the marriage can and should be reconciled. Many couples simply take the easy way out, find a lawyer, and end the marriage without ever trying to examine whether or not a conclusion can be reached other than divorce.
There was a time when women typically maintained the home and raised children while the husbands were the sole bread-winners for the family finances. However, times have changed and so have women’s rights and expectations for divorce, education, and career opportunities. Therefore, more women are able and better equipped to maintain a household on a single income. The absence of a parent, however, devastates the children and creates emotional strain on the mother to fill the father’s role. However, in spite of all these aspects, sometimes divorce is necessary for the safety of woman.
Picture this scene from a household in the 1950s. A husband works in a factory for very low wages. A wife stays at home and tends to the household and the children. They have two kids and another on the way. The husband is violent and abusive towards her and rarely comes home at night. When he does, he is usually broke from gambling and drinking. During this time period, women did not have the escape that is available in today’s society. This woman would not have been able to demand that divorce papers be written by her lawyer for the following day. Not only would the divorce be socially unacceptable, but how would she feed her children? How would she provide for herself? In the ‘50s, a woman that was clearly in need of a divorce did not even consider one. Once a social taboo, divorce is now an everyday occurrence in the United States.
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