The family concepts and teachings are fundamental for a personality
formation. Human behavior is based the most on moral and ethical principles.
Even though it suffers external influences, a high percentage of the formed
character is acquired from the familiar doctrine. Human being deals with
changes during whole life, but it still preserves its origins. Family is one of
the main tools for the structure of personality. It must guarantee the provisions
to the children; so they, in adult age, can exert productive activities for the
society. Parents must educate them and they will have a compatible moral
and values with the culture where they live. It is proven scientifically that family
can interfere with the process of child's personality formation, giving chances
to her living in an environment where she feels she is loved, respected and
stimulated to develop her potential.
The child is born with part of her personality already formed, bringing
genetic inherited traces that will determine some physical and behavioral
aspects. She will keep the physical, but the behavioral characteristics are not
permanent. They can be changed in accordance with where the child lives
and the relations that she establishes.The parents have great participation in
the formation of the personality of the children, because they serve as example.
The form of speaking, gesturing, smiling, and acting, makes the child imitates
and establishes its form of being. In the same way, if she lives in an environment
of disharmony and fighting , it will also interfere on her formation.
On the short story "Beginning Dialogues", by Toi Derricote, it is clearly
visible how the narrator is influenced by her mother's conduct. On the first
paragraph, she explains that her mother taught her how to be a good girl, as
sending thank-you notes. When questioned by his partner why she visits the
grave, she answers, "maybe I visit her grave because she would visit the grave
of her mother"(line 4). It is a good example of how she has acquired her
mother's teachings. She doesn't know exactly why she does it, but she does
because she learned that she should. She shows some sadness and
ressentiment when she speaks about her childhood. Per example, as that time
when her mother told her about her own childhood, when some white kids have
beat her. It made her questioning why a mother could tell a seven-year old girl
a sad story. On the other hands, she believes her mother loved her. It was on
her way, but she did. Her mother didn't know how to demonstrate her love, then
did not the narrator either. She discovers her affection by her mother only after
her death. She associates her adult comportment with her mother's . She
preserves concepts that she does not agree with, but she knows that it is
acquired from her mother.